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writes: A few months ago I met a guy online, we instantly hit it off and spend hours a day texting and face timing each other. He is sweet and makes me laugh. He recently mentioned meet once this pandemic is over and the boarders open back up (I’m Canadian, he is American). The only issue is I still at home with my parents (I’m 20 he is 21). For anyone who is a parent how would you feel if your daughter wanted to meet a guy she met online.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 June 2020):
 It depends on a LOT of things.
1. WHERE do you plan to meet? If it's your home town (he will have to stay at a motel or friend/family of his) then I would feel less worried about it. I would still i9nsist on you meeting him in a public place, not going ANYWHERE else with him than the first arranged meet up.
3. If YOU plan on meeting him half-ways, I think would insist of coming with. Doesn't mean I would sit in on your "date" meet up, but you would not be traveling alone. Or I would hope you would bring a friend. Again, said friend doesn't have to go with you but she would know WHERE you plan on meeting up, and you would text her a few times, during. You would also NOT leave the meeting place and go elsewhere with him.
That doesn't mean I think he is a serial killer or psycho, but... HE IS A STRANGER - no matter HOW much you have Facetime and called/texted. STILL a stranger.
4. Have you already told your parent about him? If not, why?
5. Also, if you have his full name (preferable date of birth and where he lives (what city and state) you CAN run a background check for $15 ish. Which might not be a bad idea, nothing might show up since he is young and shouldn't HAVE any criminal record. And you could do a little sleuthing yourself, check out his social media.
I think it's ALWAYS better to be safer than sorry. And TALK to your parents, ask them what they think would be a GOOD way to meet up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2020): That depends on how permissive the parents are, how good the daughter is at judging people; and what precautions she plans to take in meeting someone she met online and knows nothing about. Other than what she has learned from a few chats and face-timing.
How your parents feel about is yet to be determined. Why don't you ask them? What other parents think is irrelevant to your personal-situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2020): I'm not a parent but I am 27.
I have met each partner I have had online since I was 16. My advice is to meet in a public place where you know other people are going to be. Even have a friend stay at the place but act like they aren't with you. even have a friend message you as the date goes along. Always tell someone where you are going, what time you are meeting them, when you will be back.
I'm sure you will be fine.
Best of luck.
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