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writes:I'm nineteen and I have a huge crush on a man who's thirty one.. Whenever we're together it just feels right but I can tell we both keep questioning the age difference and it's kept us from moving forward. How can I seduce him and get the relationship I want with him? I've dated guys my own age and he's one of the first guys to hold my interest and I really do think we could go somewhere, I just need help progressing it. Thanks!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (16 April 2013):
You may want to look up the definition of 'seduce'.
Regarding how to help a relationship form, I'd also agree that nothing special needs to be done because of his age. Tell him that you understand that the age difference could be an issue and because of that you'd like to take things slow.
That should give you guys the opportunity to see if the age difference is an issue.
BTW I have a friend who was in the same situation as you. When I first heard he was dating an 18 year old (at 31) I was surprised to say the least. I met her and began to realize that they were great together. They've now been married for 2 years and are very happy together.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 April 2013):
 Well how would you progress it with a 19 year old man?
do the same with the 31 yr old. there is no difference due to age.. men are men... if what you have now as charms does not work for him, then it's not his age, it's him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's single and doesn't have any kids.. And when I said seduce I didn't mean having sex with him, I'm not stupid. Obviously I'm not going to be used. I meant seduce on an emotional level and build a relationship from there. We get along really well and I wanted tips on how to progress what we already have now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 April 2013):
So you want to seduce him and have sex with him thinking this will move the relationship forward? Is that the plan? Not a very good plan to be honest. Men will take sex (especially from young ladies who offer it freely) and not have a relationship with them. Since you have dated guys your own age, the truth is that you do not treat an older person differently. IF you like him like you do boys your age, then you treat him exactly the same. Have you talked to him about why you aren’t dating? Perhaps he does not wish to date a teenager? I can tell you that when my husband was 19 I was 32 and I am pretty sure he would not have interested me at that point in our lives. Just too many differences between 19 and 30something.I think if you are interested in having a relationship with him, you should sit down and discuss it like an adult instead of planning a seduction scene that could be laughable and backfire on you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 April 2013):
 Is he single?If not - walk away now.Chances of "seducing" him into a relationship is slim. What I would suggest is that you GET to know him and let him get to know you (and I don't mean in the sexual way). He might like you as a person, but not as a potential mate/partner, due to the age difference. OR he might be interested, you won't know til you actually get to know him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): Not to be judgemental but I think you might be at different levels of maturity with your age difference.
Maybe it's just me but when I dated an older man in my late teens, it was definitely not an equal relationship. He just had more experience about life and I've realised with hindsight that there was a lot of manipulation on his part as well.
I'm inclined to say let this ship sail. Wait for someone who you'll be on an equal footing with.
I know that doesn't answer your question but hey, there you go ;-)
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