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*HISPERSOFMYSTERY
writes:I like this guy were both 19 and hung out yesterday but they (him and his cousin) said i was quiet and it was awkward, but i don't get it, because I ask him like what he does for fun, what do you usually do? what sports you like? what kind of music you like? and dogs you like? do you guys go cruising? you know I ask all this so i don't get how I was quiet? What do I talk about? and I did talk, but sometimes no, I would listen.I'm soo confused, but really like this guy it was my first time hanging out with him, we use to go to elementary school and i had a major crush on him.My older niece and I were hanging out with them but the guy I only like wrote to my niece and not me at all, but its weird, because he was looking at me the whole time licking his lips and saying my name when we hung out.So I dont get why he is ignoring me now?
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 May 2012):
 You are very welcome. I do hope it helps
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reader, WHISPERSOFMYSTERY +, writes (24 May 2012):
WHISPERSOFMYSTERY is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you!!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 May 2012):
I think you asked him too many questions. He possibly felt like it was an inquisition.
You may or may not get another chance with him, however I am going to give you some tips on getting a better response next time from a guy.
But secondly how much front does he have? He allowed his eyes to be on you, and was looking at you, BUT all the time he was slying taking in the vision of your cousin. That is MEAN. And surely he must have known that you would find out that he wrote to your cousin?
And his excuses? Pfffft!!!! Excuses only to allow him to distance himself. There are plenty more nicer guys than that.
Here are some tips for next time.
Ask less questions. Allow more time for him to think of an answer. And draw from that answer to get him talking about himself more on the same subject.
Ask OPEN questions as nuch as possible.
Never ask a question that only requires a Yes or a NO answer. That stops the conversation flowing.
Yes example: What's the biggest challenge for you about cruising?
Now allow lots of think time while he formulates his answer.
Follow it up with a related question.
When there is a gap in the conversation introduce some feedback,
= So what have you done to address that problem?
= How did you feel when that happened?
Continue to allow him time to formulate his answers
NO example: Do you guys go cruising = answer can be yes or no. (ends the conversation - and now you have to think of another question.
Always watch his body language.
Silence is OK.
Your older cousin reeeled him in, and by the look of it, she used less energy and effort to get him interested.
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