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writes:Okay, so I don't know if I'm gay, straight, or bi. My first pornographic experience was near 5th grade, and I sorta got hooked since. I've been looking at boys from time to time, and I even thought some of the boys in my school were cute as I grew up. I now have a really great friend who's a girl and she digs me a lot, but I'm still not sure on my orientation. Sometimes I think about guys I know and how good they look. One reason I think this is is because I started gaining weight near the end of elementary school and have been gaining weight since. I've never lost weight and stayed down. Is it because I want to be skinny and lose a lot of pounds? Is that why I tend to look at guys and see that they have a nice body , even if they're skinny as a twig? Or is it really because of my sexual preferences?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hi Hunny
I can see this is a big problem for you, I wouldnt worry about it to much, First if you want to loose a few pounds and get a more toned bod then start by doing that, Eat healthy and go to the gym give yourself a goal and get that body you want...Then when you have achieved that you will see things clearer gay straight bisexual it matters not what you are hunny and you will no doubt experiment as time goes on, It will all come clearer as you get older sweetheart, you get that fit bob your looking for and you will feel better within, And go from there hunny it doesnt matter what sexuality you choose in life as long as you are happy and good to yourself and others TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, aim  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Hello. Fortunately for you, i can help you on both cases:
1. figure out if you're gay bi straight.
2. how to lose weight.
First and foremost, be more specific if what kind of pornography you were exposed when you were just 5th grade? Straight or Gay? Well, thing is, if you are sexually attracted (gets a boner/erection) to watching straight porn (*and specifically focuses on the girl and not on the guy*) then you probably are straight. If gay porn, and gets an erection at watching guys do some 'sexy-time' then chances are you're gay. BUT! If you are turned on by both or any of the genders in the porn (*and yes, you just have to face the truth, no denying it or something!*) then it is possible you're bi! ü
In short, just check where you are sexually aroused.
On your weight problem, we are quite opposites. I was a really chubby/fat kid and grew up TRYING to lose weight but was unsuccessful up until just around october of 2007. And from then, i have been losing weight on a regular and healthy basis. Lesson one: DONT CRASH DIET!! THAT'S A NO NO!! Why? Because you'll surely get thin in about a month or 2 but you'll have excess skin on your tummy, arms, and legs! And losing the excesss skin takes longer to lose than losing weight on a regular basis! Plus your body looks weird and yucky with the excess skin!
What i did was i enrolled myself to the gym. I have a bodybuilder classmate and asked him to make me a work out schedule that i can follow for the 1st month or so. Thing is, it is NOT automatic that if you go to gym regularly, you'd get thin.
What to do? RIP IT!!! You have to RIP IT!!! PUSH!!! PUSH!!!
You're body's gonna swell like hell for the first week and think that you don't wanna come back to the gym anymore! BUT!! Take the second week and after that week, the muscle pains wouldn't hurt THAT much. And somehow, take the muscle pains as a sign that your muscles are growing and getting bigger. ü
Ok... So, my advice on your post is really getting long. I have really good advice for you about losing weight if you need it! Just message/mail me privately and maybe we can talk about it. :)
P.S. so from october to this end of january, 4months already, i have lost around 14pounds. And that's including the christmas break already where i got some pounds back from all those yummy food. haha. Message me okay? ü
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Hi again,this is the same guy who wrote this question. Thanks for your responses and all, but do you know any other ways than just trying to go out w/ another guy? I mean, I haven't told anybody about this yet and I don't know how they would react if I told them. Mostly I'd think my parents would tell me its wrong and I'd think they'd treat me like some sort of 'disgusting thing'. I've been mostly feeling insecure about myself, since I'm considered obese (not overweight) I get depressed sometimes and I don't know if it's just mood swings or something else. Plus, my following Christianity also has a role, seeing that being homosexual is a sin, and I feel so bad about it. I'm sorry if I'm going off topic, but is there any advice to give to a young teen who wants to lose weight? Maybe if I loose a few extra pounds, I might take my mind off about how bad I look and start going out with girls. I'd really hate to make my friends so upset about it...I just don't know what to do in the meantime than just to live my life...
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reader, xxmissxx  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 well, iv always said, if you never try youll never know!
its obviouse your curious about sexual relations with men or you wouldnt take pleasure in watchin gay porn.
Id say go for it, no one need know about, try it out and if you dont like it then youll know what you do like.
The same goes for pursuing sexual relations with a woman, if you dont like it try batting for the other side.
Good luck!
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reader, Edward40 +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Well, reading what you had written is almost like reading about myself when I was a lot younger. I did not know if I was gay straight or bi. It took me a long time to find out that I was really Gay. I must have been in denial for such a long time. It came to the point when I was engaged to be married. That a big part of me felt like something was missing. As much as I loved my girl friend, and I still do. I knew it was not right for me. I had a few girlfriends in my life, but when I thought about it, it was not right for me. I'm glad to be able to still call any of my past girlfriends as very good friends now. But, I know that it's men that I really do like. It's something you have to find out yourself, try things out see how you feel being with women and men. See what sort of buzz you get when you are with them. Then when you have done that, you can start to really think if your are Gay Bi OR Straight. I can say for myself kissing a man feels more natural to me then kissing a woman. Good luckEdward
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Anyone can look at members of the same sex and think they're attractive, it's perfectly normal. You're only gay if you actually want to have sex with other men as opposed to women. If you want to have sex with both, you're A bisexual and B double your chances of getting lucky (me trying to be funny, apologies).
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Well the first sign is usually you want to have sex with men rather than women. That's probably the first thing.So... what gets you hot?If you said SCHLONG you tipped JACKPOT on the Gay alarm.Flynn 24
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