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writes:We pretty much had been in a relationship for about a month before we both went off to college two weeks ago. There is a two hour travel distance between the two colleges, so technically we're long distance. My biggest worry with him is hell dump me because i am his first serious girl friend and he used to be a player. Well after a weekend visit with some drama of him fliritn with other girls ive relized I am way more into him than he is into me. He s off at his college having the time of his life and not really caring if our relationship to end. I on the other hand am depressed. I hate my college. I put all my happiness into him. I sit and wait for him tot ext me and when he doesnt i call him at the end of the day and he only has about 5 monutes to talk to me before hes off partying. I know this relationship is not healthy. All my friends say dump him because he doesnt treat me right. My birthday was two weeks ago and he didnt even get me a birthday gift or spend really any time at all with me on it. I am oo attached. I just need advice how to become unattached. I dont know why but Im acting so dependent on him. My friends say he has me on a leash. How do I get off this leash?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 September 2011):
 You're young.... relax and have a good time where YOU are (at your college)..... and let him "do his thing" where he is..... and stay in-touch, if you wish.... but let things me 'way more casual....
Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 September 2011):
 YOU have yourself on a leash.. he does not...
IF you don't contact him he will not contact you I am sure... it's not a relationship now, it's you holding on to a dream.
HE is not the man you need or want him to be... that's clear in his behavior...
You are at college... get out meet people, make friends... do not sit around waiting for a man who isn't going to be there for you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 Easy for me to say but just tell him "goodby" a dependency relationship is NOT a relashionship it's mental slavery. Just work your way out, you sound intelligent enough to have recognizd the issue so be clever but not hesitant and sail away.
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