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*ollege girl
writes:I was looking for some insight from some parents on this site, especially of college age kids.I currently live 5 hours away from my home town because I go to school. I work part time at a pub/ eatry. In October I met a really nice older guy who goes to the same gym and is in a running group I'mIn. He is 38 (17 years older then me). He is a great guy , he has a decent job, no kids, very respectful, fun , nice . Besides his age he would be a guy that most parents would love for their daughter to date. Instead of moving back home now that my school is finished for the year , I was thinking of staying , my job offered me full time position until school starts again. My only problem is my parents keep asking (well my mother does) who I'm dating and if that's the reason I want to stay, he wants to met my parents. I'm really worried that they will take one look at his age and freak out. How do I get them to not judge his age and just get to know him before they decide they don't like him. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 May 2016):
 It really depends on your parents and how they will react, their is no way off making sure that they are okay with this. You just need to be honest with them and see how it goes. You are still their little girl so I can see why they would be worried, he is old enough to be your dad. Just be honest with them and hopefully they will come around to the idea when they see how good he is to you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 May 2016):
 “How do I get them to not judge his age and just get to know him?”
I would introduce him on Skype or similar video chats.
Here’s the thing: he’s the age he is. He’s 38. There nothing you can do or say to change that.
If you’re this worried about his age and your parents judging him then I would say that you aren’t really in this relationship for the longterm.
They’re his age so they’ll be closer to him in the timeline of life. They’ll have some insights you might not have just based on life histories.
You are legally an adult so able to make all your own life decisions. If you want to get really good at working at a pub/eatery then by all means stay and hone those skills.
What seems to make more sense would be to find a summer job that will enhance your employment prospects after you graduate.
As to getting them not to judge his age let them know you are dating him before you announce major life decisions.
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