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*ndless_tamara
writes:so i just moved back to my hometown after 4.5 years, and i ran into an old boyfriend that i dated right after highschool. when we were together, it was great...we were thick as theives...i am close with his family, and they have always wanted us to be together...in fact, im the only GF he has ever had that his mother has liked! so i ran into him 2 weeks ago, and we have been hanging out nonstop for that time....we have even had sex....the only problem is, he has been with a girl muchyounger than him for almost a year. they do not get along, and nobody...not friends or family likes her at all. so he broke up with her to go out with me, but he still talks to her all the time....she cheated on him over 5 times, and she doesnt beleive that he broke up with her....so now, every time i go over there he spends all this time arguing with her online, and ignores me until he gets too angry to fight any more and logs off the computer...so the only time i get to spend with him is when hes all angry and no fun at all...he says he wants to be with me, but that he still has feelings for her as well...what do i do? this could be great!!! how do i get him to cut the cord?
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I cant believe that he knows you are sitting in the room and he is replying to her emails in front of you. He clearly hasnt grown up as much as you think and he still has feelings for this other girl but is annoyed by the way she has treated him. I think you need to set him straight on a few things. The next time he does this infront of you walk out and tell him to give you a call when he has grown up, he either wants to get with you or he doesnt. He is chosing to answer her emails which would suggest that he is not ready to cut the cord. Leave him to it.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 He's got to WANT to do that himself and he's not ready yet. It might be a good idea that he deletes her or at least blocks her from his PC for now. He has to want to end all ties with her. What YOU should do in the meantime is remain friends with him but not sleep together. Let him know exactly what you want him to do... CUT THE CORD... just like you said. Let him know you hate him talking with her albeit arguing. Tell him he could save himself a lot of trouble by just deleting her permanently. Maybe then he'll see you're right and do it!
Eve
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 He obviously isn't ready to pull the plug on his current girlfriend, and, until he does, you need to go your own separate way. There's nothing you can do to "cut the cord" without getting yourself in the middle of a mess. It probably wouldn't be that great.
Good luck!
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