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writes:i am 15 and I feel all alone. my friends have abandoned me. i have to sell my horses which are my life. i'm told all the time i'm not worth anything. people call me a slut and i'm faithful. i'v lost everyone in my life who ever made me feel wanted and happy. my boyfriend even called me a whore today. i need help and advice or something. I need friends and i can't go to a counselor. I'm too young to have a car or a licence to go anywhere myself Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 September 2012):
 I am truly sorry that you are surrounded by base people who are not worthy of you. There are better people in this world and the fact that you are distressed by these base cruel people means that you are NOT one of them. You know that there are better ways to behave.
There are many other people who think like you and would never dream of being as cruel as the people around you.
Your Boyfriend has ceased to qualify as Boyfriend material if he would dare to speak to you like that. He is NOT worthy of you if he will speak like that. It was disrespectful and cruel and very very rude. You do not have to put up with an abusive boyfriend.
I am very sorry about your horses. Horses are very expensive to maintain properly. I am sure you that love your horses and you would want them to be well cared for.
Can you volunteer anywhere near and help look after any nearby horses or any animals that need care?
You do not mention parents of a mother or father or other relatives. But I am wondering if the adults in your life are experiencing some financial woes? And that perhaps that is why they cannot afford to look after your horses any longer? If that is so the adults may be distressed over this too, but may not be telling you everything.
I definitely think you now have to start to rebuild you and focus first on rebuilding your own self estemm. Here is an article that may help you a lot:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
Walk away from people who call you Nasty Names. That is Bullying and it is NOT ok.
Do you attend school? Is there an adult at school who you could speak to about how you are feeling?
I have no doubt that you sound depressed. This is treatable and I would recommend that you ask to be allowed to see a Doctor about this as soon as possible.
If the Doctor is not possible and a school counsellor is not possible then please do reach out to Befrienders who are free. - look up Depression on the Befriender's site below:
http://befrienders.org/helplines/helplines.asp?c2=USA
Other lists: http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/crisis_hotlines.htm#crisis10
And i have no doubt that your so called friends have been bullying you:
Definition of bullying:
“Persistent, offensive, abusive, intimidating or insulting behaviour, abuse of power or unfair penal sanctions which makes the recipient(s) feel upset, threatened, humiliated and/or vulnerable, undermining or destroying their self-confidence, reputation and ability to perform, and causing stress which can lead to serious illness.”
You can survive Bullying. There a huge number of articles and resources that can help you cope with Bullying on Tim Field’s old site called : http://bullyonline.org/workbully/index.htm
It may be that you have bigger issues than you have revealed so far so I am including additional help lines for you:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://www.ndvh.org
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network: http://www.rainn.org
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): You are not worthless nor a whore nor a slut, you're a young girl who has temporarily fallen down (emotionally). People do fall down and then do learn how to pick themselves back up. You need to talk to someone dear. I know someone on this site who can help you that's helped me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): Im so sorry :/ and trust me no one is ever alone and definataly not worthless. YOU know who you are :) you are a good person from what im taking at. Your boyfriend screw him you are vauluble and he doesnt deserve a good hearted person. Well about the horses im sorry too it must be terrible :// Well what i would do is try to find a new hobby try new things for example dance you dont have to be good but the expierence and at the same time make new friends :) Even if you think your family doesnt care.. they do go to them too! I hope i helped a little things WILL get better and you will encounter a good guy that deserves all your kindness and will respect you! Good luck!
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