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writes:hey there :)me and my ex boyfriend were on and off for about 2 years.the good times were the best of my life, but the bad wer the worst, and i think that he would say the same.Last time we split, which is 3 months ago and by far the longest we have been apart, i realised that i was fed up with how he treated me. he had no respectfor me and i felt that h didnt really love me, although he said otherwise. We ended quie badly..i met somebody else and we said some really hurtful things to each other.I soon realised that the new guy was a rebound and that I still had feelngs for my ex, so needed to be alone for a while. we cut all contact since. However last night i was out with the girls and we bumped into him. He was very very drunk. On previous occassions when we have split and then he has seen my drunk he has become emotional and told me he missed me and loved me.this time he wasnt at all phased to see me.his football team had won a game earlier that day and he told me to kiss his football shirt, along with all my friends, then proceeded to stroke my friends face and stole my hat before running away. I was mortified. I obviously am not over him as i felt like crying and became really emotional. I dont understand hw he can be completely over me already, it hurts so much!Why am i still so upset when he is clearly over me??my friend said boys get over girls much quicker than vice versa.is this true?or is it because i was with somebody else after him so he got over me? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): I think you need to move on and I also think you need to stay away from using future guys as rebounds. Get off the dating scene until you get over your ex and then may take sometime, but in the end it will be worth it. You shouldn't want to hurt someone feelings and toy around with their emotions simply because, you haven't figured yours out yet. You are not ready for a relationship of any kind. You need to be more focus on builing your self esteem, and getting your emotions properly placed. I suggest you get an account at www.amazon.com and start buying some relationship books.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 May 2010):
I agree with the post below. A relationship that is always on/off never works out, and he got tired of it and decided to move on. you need to move on as well.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 My speculation is that he felt the off-and-on thing was just too much and so he understood he should put it behind him as quick as possible.
I recommend you do the same.
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