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26-29,
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writes:oh god, please help me.I have been in a relationship for 6 months, and things came to a fairly natural end, however, towards the end of the relationship, i developed feelings for a very recently close friend. We get on amazingly well, talking for hours and hours every day. we found out we liked eachother, and we both agreed that on some level, it really felt natural and right to be with eachother. So, knowing i would have ended it with my boyfriend anyway, it just acted like a catalyst by a day or so. Normally, I wouldnt jump headfirst like this, but my god it feels so right, i cant even explain it. however, its was/is popular belief in our school that he is with this other girl, who i was okay friends with. A lot of girls in our year like him, but he has never reciprocated that. so many of these girls are also close friends, one of which being my ex-best friend, who i recently started talking to again and who now despises me massively. (who am i kidding, most people will despise me for this)I feel this makes things so difficult. I want nothing more than to tell the world, but I know he will get so much hate for it and so will I - I am the 'other girl' and he is the 'heartbreaker.Should we lie low for a while? I feel awful. He has spoken to this other girl and 'broken things off' (there was never even a thing) as I have spoken to my now ex-boyfriend.tbh, we both feel awful, but we also feel so strongly that it just feels extraordinarily right (outside of circumstances)so should we lie low? or stand and deal with the oncoming drama together? So many people know we like eachother, so it seems pointless to hide it. I just dont want to hurt anyone.is there any way to minimise drama and get the drama over and done with as quickly as possible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2015): There will be more drama if you let people gossip. If you both like each other then go for it, and disregard what anyone else says it's none of their business.As long as you don't lose all your friends over it, boys come and go but your gf's you'll want to keep - but thn if they're true friends this wouldn't bother them anyway. If people have a problem then let them stay miserable, you two just enjoy your lives and have a fun relationship. No point living your life through fear of how others will judge you, especially if it costs you the chance to have a meaningful relationship with someone.If he's a nice guy, will respect you and treat you how you deserve then happy days!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (4 February 2015):
 I guess it depends on how recently you all broke up with your significant others. If it was more than a month ago then I think it's fine. If it's like a day or week after then I don't see the rush to unnecessarily hurt people.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (4 February 2015):
No, don't lie low.
If you do you will be at the mercy of people who love to gossip.
Just be upfront and honest with people. It is only as big of a deal as you make it.
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