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writes:One of my closest friends (""adam"") has fallen for another of our friends (""beth"") but Beth doesnt feel the same way. Wenever he is drunk, Adam texts her telling her how he feels. This is happening about once a week. Me and another of our friends (""Becca"") keep telling Adam to not text her and to leave it because his behaviour is starting to turn slighty obessive (like the other day, when we were at a party he kept taking photos of Beth, like a lot more and everyone was noticing). The thing is, Adam keeps asking me and Becca for advise but then totally ignores it, but we know that everytime he sends one of his drunken texts to Beth, its the type of message that will freak a girl out (the kind where a guy is coming on way too strong and is coming across as being obessed with you) as he shows us the text afterwards.How can me and Becca tell Adam (without hurting his feelings) to basically back off and forget Beth, because its starting to ruin their friendship and the friendship between the four of us?xxx
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (12 February 2007):
 Agree with CD206, it is Beth that should put a stop to this. But not doing this, she is almost encouraging Adam to carry on.
Not matter how much Beth is trying to spare his feelings, the kindest thing is to put a stop to it before his feelings grow stronger. It will be harder for him then.
Perhaps you can talk to Beth, if Adam is ignoring your advice.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 February 2007):
 He;s not going to listen to anything you and Becca tell him. He needs to hear it from Beth. This is totally normal. I'm guessing in the same situation you'd prefer to hear no from the person himself rather than his friends. If Beth's unwilling to say anything to him maybe she secretly likes the attention or is actually interested in which case you need to tell her she might end up hurting his feelings unless she's straight with him but honestly... the best thing you and Becca can do is butt out and let them sort out their own relationship or lack of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): Ok I realize you all are very young, but seriously this is incrediably immature all around, you,Becca, Adam, Beth ... This is not your business to let Adam know Beth does not like him that way.
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