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writes:I've developed a little crush on one of my next door neighbors. I am in my early twenties and he's in his late twenties. Occasionally, I see him in front of his house and we always say hello and have the casual conversation but it never goes anywhere. I don't think he has a girlfriend but according to Facebook, he has a lot of pretty girls as friends. I have very high standards when it comes to guys so its rare that I see one who is interesting enough. Sometimes I see him in his house at night alone and I always want an excuse to go over there and ask him to fix something or some other neighborly thing but I never find one. Plus I don't want to invite him to my house, since I live with my parents and its kinda embarrassing. He's somewhat a hippy and a musician so that's the only thing I can think to talk about but I wouldn't know what to say. Anyone have any suggestions or should I leave it alone?
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reader, N91  +, writes (28 December 2012):
 Even if he doesn't see you in that way, I'm sure you can remain civil as neighbours lol
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your input. I guess I just have to go for it, as much as I dont want to. I'm old fashioned I guess when it comes to gender roles and besides I'm so scared that he'll say no and then it will be awkward every single time we see each other from then on.
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reader, Mac1351 +, writes (27 December 2012):
I would have to agree, you need to make the first move on this guy. If it is something you really want to pursue then go for it. If you cannot have him over because you live with your parents, then make an excuse to go into his house. He is a musician, so go over there with an excuse for wanting to buy a record and ask his advice. This is actually a really good starting point, as long as you both like the same kinds of music..... :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 December 2012):
This is the 21st century, you can ask a guy out you know lol
Ask him if he'd like to go out for a coffee or a drink sometime, see where it goes.
Good luck
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reader, fzald +, writes (27 December 2012):
Next time you have a casual conversation with him outside his house, just go for it! Ask him if he'd like to maybe join you for coffee or lunch sometime. Obviously you'll have to accept if he says no, but you will never know unless you try!
It's probably best, even though he's your neighbor, to start on neutral ground. So invite him out to a nearby restaurant as I said. You could even say something friendly like "We're neighbors and we see each other a lot but we don't know each other that much... I'd kinda like to get to know you better!"
All good relationships are built on good friendships, so start with friendship and see how it goes... Your gut and your emotions will let you know soon enough if he's interested in you!
Best of luck!
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