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writes:i am a lesbian and i have just split up with my girlfriend. we only went out for 6 months but it was my first real relatonship. i think she wants to get back with her ex, although she says she will not. she says she is not ready for a serious relationship. i want to get back with her, any idea's on to prove how much she means to me? i dont want to be here without her. help!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 The seduction is not about proving to her how much you love her. At worst, you would only get her back by making her feel guilty. The Seduction is about making her FEEEEL about you, and her coming to her own conclusion that she should be with you.
Chances are that she is already at least sleeping with the ex, and my guess is that her telling you that she is not into serious relationships right now, she means she is not into YOU right now. My guess is that maybe she felt you loved her more than she loved you, and was feeling suffocated.
If you make your focus about how much you want her, you will come off too needy and scare her away. If your focus is to make her feel a range of emotions for you, then that might entice her to come back.
I would suggest seeing as many other girls (or guys if you are bi at all) as possible. She needs to be reminded that you are very desirable to others.
-FBK
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (12 June 2007):
 If she doesnt want to get in to a relationship right now then you should respect her choice. Be there and show her how you feel without going OTT. Maybe she'll realise she wants to be with you and something will happen, but if she's not wanting to be in a relationship then her being in one isn't going to work right now
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