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writes:hi there agony aunts and uncles, thanks for the good advice i have had from you with problems i have put on here, and also helped everytime, im just wanting to know and i feel a little cheeky saying this, but how do i hint to my boyfriend of nearly 3 years that i cant wear silver earings cause they make my ears go all poorly, im not going into detail but i cant wear them for long, i always wear gold even when i am with him, he has got me earings for the last two xmas and i say oh thank you there lovely and put them straight in so i dont affend him in not wearing them, its a LDR so when im not with him i wear my gold ones again and my ears feel better and not hurt, then when i see him again put my silver ones in, but sometimes have to take them out cause they start to hurt my ears, he dont even notice or he does and not says anything, hes a quiet man like me we are well suited not quiet with each other we was first meeting but now we communicate well, and i love him to bits like he does me, but how do i hint if he plans to buy me some more earings for next xmas he gets me gold not silver without hurting his feelings, we do have excellent communication i can talk to him about any problem that comes up, with been apart i sometimes feel insecure but he always reasures me we are forever which makes me smile again i am ok talking about them problems when they do come up, but this not wanting silver i cant bring up, i dont want to sound un greatful to him thats why i wear them so i dont hurt his feelings if i didnt, but im the one that suffers the pain and poorly ears, so do i just come out with it before xmas to buy me gold not silver and if so HOW... or, do i just pray and hope he gets me gold next time, with him only been with nearly three years he might not feel the need or want to buy me gold yet, i dont know how mens minds work that way he might not want to spend a lot on gold earings i dont know, anyway hope for some advice on what to do or how to sort of hint..cause he does have good taste and the silver earings he buys me are so nice and i would like to wear them all the time and show off what my man bought me for xmas but for some reason i just cant wear silver..thanks any advice would be good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): THANKS FOR ALL THE REPLYS...and will take on all your advice you have all given me, and i will have a little chat with my lovely kind hearted boyfriend, about that i am allergic to other metals than gold, he might get the message then without me actually saying to him, next time you get me earings can you get me gold, i feel thats a bit cheeky saying it that way, i would wear anything he gave me but then i suffer, and i dont think he would be too happy i am suffering, he would rather i say, we are quite a open couple about talking about things, so yeh your all probably right he wont mind me saying, and he would know what to get me if and when he got me jewellry, thanks. again....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 January 2012):
 Just tell him, I love the earrings you give me, you have great taste, unfortunately I can't wear them all for long since I'm allergic to silver.
And I agree with person12345 - silver allergy is rare, mostly what people are reacting to is the nickel. If you get Sterling silver 925 the chance of it containing nickel is very little. Or just tell him you like white gold better, looks like silver but without the nickel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): just say you think you've suddenly developed an allergy to certain metals, because your ears have been playing up after wearing ALL your earings, oh but not the Gold ones luckily, maybe you are developing an allergy to silver and other metals...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Get clear nail polish and coat the earring backs, posts, and or wires. It works like a charm. It will need to be done again after many wears.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 January 2012):
 You're way overthinking this. Just tell him you absolutely love the earrings he got you, but you can't wear them because you're allergic but you really wish you could wear them more!
Though it's almost impossible to be allergic to silver, I'm guessing you're allergic to nickel. Many silver earrings are actually nickel, either mixed in or plating and many people are allergic to nickel. Sterling silver is almost unheard of to have an allergy to.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 January 2012):
 "Hey, are you allergic to anything?"
(He answers... "Shellfish, llamas, strawberries, etc.")
"I didn't know that about you! I'm allergic to silver, isn't that weird? Anytime I wear silver, my ears puff up like little blowfish!"
If he asks about the pair he already bought you, say "they were so gorgeous, I just had to wear them... but I had to stop because they were hurting my ears too much. But I miss wearing them, they are so beautiful!".
That's what I would do, at least. Good luck!
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