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writes:I have a crush on a co-worker. I flirt just enough to not make it awkward. I want to ask him out but I can't seem to read him. My office is small, so if I put myself out there everyone will know and it will be uncomfortable if he turns me down. Do I risk it? What can I do to get closer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): Make sure he's not married first. And then if the circumstance is right, I would start with having lunch with him first. I think it's casual enough that no one will notice. If you want to be safer about it, ask it with a bunch of other folks first and just get to know him better that way.It is risky. You may face the reality that it will not work out and how willing are you to give up this job because it may get uncomfortable enough where one of you may end up leaving. That's what happened to me. Seeing him was painful because I loved him but since we're both in a committed relationship, we decided to end it.But he was the one that I didn't know has been missing in my life and I truly wish things were different. I still miss him to this day. It's been two months since I left my old job.Think it through.
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reader, MSA +, writes (12 November 2014):
 This is the best time of the year to come up with every excuse possible. Ask him for shopping tips, go black Friday shopping with you, Xmas shopping with you, ask him for advice on holiday events, meals etc.. find a common interest and build on that.
Since it's the holidays, no one will think anything more than just holiday spirit.
Get his Facebook, Instagram or whatever social media he uses, friend him and start up convos on things he posts.
There's lots of way to show interest! Good luck!
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