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male
age
30-35,
*ylerh
writes:I have been dating this girl and I really want this to be a long lasting relationship. I have an issue with jealousy and I want to know how I can resolve this and get through it. My girlfriend had a boyfriend in the past and used to be obbsessed with him. They talk to each other online. He has a girlfriend. Sometimes I just get jealous. I did that with my last girlfriend too, I can't control it either. Do you have any suggestions on fixing this so I can live on with life happy and not insecure? If anybody does please help. Thank you
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reader, love-him  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
I can understand where you are coming from.. I myself get jealous, but after 2 years, in this relationship, i have calmed down a lot because of trust. You need to be able to trust your girlfriend and also trust who she speaks to. I know you might not be able to trust who she is talking to.. but you need to find a way to take your mind off her!!
GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x
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reader, Kawika +, writes (28 February 2008):
 I think all of us have some degree of jealousy. I think the main thing is what we do with it when it does happen. Nothing is more detrimental than to react impulsively to it. In most cases, that ugly churning jealous feeling that abides in us normally comes through mental images that pop into our heads of our bf/gf fooling around or acting inappropriately when in fact they aren't. It's like a mirage. Get the facts first...remember no assumptions. Talk to her about it. It's amazing how I see some people take jealousy to an extreme. I'm a laid back guy, so if a girl decides to venture somewhere else...than I would definitely leave. You can't force anyone to love you. You do your best based upon what you have. It is just part of being a Man. Men don't beg nor do they react impulsively to negative emotions. They live above them. Keep in mind...girls sometimes have the habit of making those they care about jealous. They just want to see how much that person cares for them. It is an insecure gesture, but it is common and it works. But it could also be a test to see if one is a emotional strong Man. Don't let it consume you...try to live above it. Instead focus your attention on her. Let her know and feel that YOU are the best thing since "popcorn". Once she feels this, she could care less about anyone else. I hope this helps.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 You can Google that question and find many tips online.
Jealousy is possessive love. Try not to control who she sees or talks to.
Do unto others if you don't want others to do unto you.
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