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How long should I wait before I give up?
Q. ive been working with a guy since last october, im really into him and i was unsure whether he felt the same, the people we work with tell me he talks about me, saying how nice i am and that he'd love to take me out. But yesterday was my last day ...
A. 29 April 2008: I would consider giving it at least a couple weeks. If he's really shy than a month...If he's really, really shy than a year (kidding). He's probably building his nerve to call you. He's probably standing in front of his mirror right now trying ... (read in full...)
I'm really depressed and want to runaway..
Q. I'm a 13rd old girl. I'm in gr.8 so I am still in public school I've been going through alot in my life lately. I've just been a really sad, lonely, depressed young girl. Even at school recess, i'm all alone outside. I've been crying alot when I'm ...
A. 13 March 2008: I know the heartache you are going through...when I hear you, I see myself. I'm a lot older and stronger now, but the scars are still there. I'm sorry I am not able to help you unless I know some reasons why you are feeling the way you do, but I ... (read in full...)
Should I chicken out and not see this guy this weekend?
Q. OK so another guy problem. I like this guy but he is one of my brothers best friends. My brother knows and so does my BFF brother and he said he is going to tell him. But I am worried he will make fun of me really bad this weekend when i see him. ...
A. 13 March 2008: I'm sorry that it turned out the way it did, but you should be proud of yourself for meeting your fears. Although the outcome may not have been what you expected look at how much answers you unfolded. To me...You are a very special person thinking ... (read in full...)
Allsorts!!!!! not for the faint of heart! READ WITH CAUTION!!!!
Q. Mr Cadbury and Miss Rowntree met on a Double Decker, it was After Eight. She was from Quality Street, he was a Fisherman's Friend. On the way, they stopped at a Yorkie Bar, he had a Rum and Butter, she had a Wine Gum. He asked her her name, ...
A. 6 March 2008: Okay...Mandy, now I know you loved the enemas. Grrrrrr!!! Great story. It made my day. Considering your awesome wit and imagination, I wouldn't be surprised if the story was your own. So the moral of the story is....NEVER EAT CANDY OR ELSE ... (read in full...)
How not to become a cheater!
Q. 1- Remember that your partner should be your best friend, so talk to him/her about your worries; 2- Don't let yourself become close friends with a particular person of the opposite sex! The moment you tell another man about problems with yours sp...
A. 6 March 2008: Hey Annalisa,
Great article, topic, and advice. One more thing though...STOP NAGGING...and that goes for both men and women. The misconception is that it is only females who nag. Men are just as much whiners as females. Nothing is more det... (read in full...)
I am almost 9 months pregnant and caught my husband cheating with text sex...
Q. I am nearly nine months' pregnant and caught my husband cheating with text sex. We've been together eight years and married for nearly five. He's 10 years younger hadn't had any serious relationships before me and wants to live by himself but still ...
A. 6 March 2008: What is with these guys nowadays!? If I were to cast my vote, I would say dump him already. He is definitely not worth your time and expense. It seems he has no backbone or understanding what "love" really is. When he says he is "frightened" he ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but she's engaged...I really need some advice.
Q. I have been best friends with this girl for 4 years. And in love with her for 3. She has been in the same relationship since I have known her and recently got engaged. We go out together to a movie or dinner occasionally and always have a great time ...
A. 6 March 2008: You need to tell her. Don't live with the ugliness of regrets like I have. You may never know what she is thinking or feeling. Maybe, she thinks her fiance is the only option she has because you have not spoken out. The honest truth is that I ... (read in full...)
My so called "friends" are making my life a misery, what can I do to stop this?
Q. Just under a year ago, me and my best friends of years (all the way through first and middle school) kind of got to the point where we weren't good friends anymore. I would get left out a lot and when I spoke to them about it, it was just a joke to ...
A. 5 March 2008: WOW...so much drama. Well, I think most of us have been in similar situations. Some less and some more intense. The best way I've handled mine is to NOT show your irritation or concern about it. The best way to get back at them is to show them ... (read in full...)
How do I spot the good ones?
Q. I am tired of being alone and would like to meet someone already! I'm not necessarily looking for someone to fall in love with right now, but someone to get to know, spend some time with whos actually a decent human being! I was reading a di...
A. 5 March 2008: I think its hard these days to find what you are looking for, especially over the internet. There are so many creeps out there and they always have a self-serving agenda. Obviously, the best way is person to person. That way you can really tell ... (read in full...)
Should I chicken out and not see this guy this weekend?
Q. OK so another guy problem. I like this guy but he is one of my brothers best friends. My brother knows and so does my BFF brother and he said he is going to tell him. But I am worried he will make fun of me really bad this weekend when i see him. ...
A. 5 March 2008: Fear of the unknown is expected, but try not to let it consume you. You never know what may happen. The problem with a lot of people these days is that they don't give things a fighting chance. They assume the worst and they end up giving up and ... (read in full...)
I miss kissing!
Q. This guy wants me to be his girlfriend but I do not want a boyfriend right now. I just went through a bad breakup a few months ago and I am just chillin' for now and living life. I am kinda attracted to him, but he is over 10 years younger than I ...
A. 5 March 2008: Well, unfortunately I can't explain the tendencies of your other boyfriends, but I think in general men do like to kiss. Well, at least I do, especially in the course of lovemaking. But, I also enjoy kissing in a way that expresses my affections. ... (read in full...)
How can I make her feel like she's the only girl in the world for me?
Q. hey i need some ideas to make my gf feel like shes the only girl in the world im giving her breakfast in bed and i need some other ideas... theres not special occasion just thought it would be nice...
A. 5 March 2008: I think it amounts to the frequency of a lot of small things like leaving short affectionate notes in places she wouldn't expect. A self written poem or love letters expressing your feelings for her is always good. A massage under candle light ... (read in full...)
I miss kissing!
Q. This guy wants me to be his girlfriend but I do not want a boyfriend right now. I just went through a bad breakup a few months ago and I am just chillin' for now and living life. I am kinda attracted to him, but he is over 10 years younger than I ...
A. 4 March 2008: I don't know. There is something about kissing that excites the hormones in men. We tend to want more...and more...and more. And then, we want sex...sex...sex. It is complete torture to a guy when you start passionately kissing a man and then ... (read in full...)
26 years old and never had a boyfriend...
Q. I am a 26 year old female who has never had a boyfriend. I think I'm a pretty interesting and unique person overall. I'm reasonably attractive (have modelled professionally- 5'8/125), have an career primarily as a musician and occasional indie ...
A. 4 March 2008: Unfortunately, I'm going through the same situation. I've run into many dead ends with my relationships. It seems at times I am jinxed. While I see others smoothly enter into relationships, I often think to myself "What am I doing wrong?". The ... (read in full...)
How do I get closure from a relationship if the person has disappeared?
Q. How do I get closure from a relationship if the person has just disappeared? I don't really want to call him, text him, or email him ... I just want answers but don't know how to get them. I know I will never get the answers I want to hear. I ...
A. 3 March 2008: I can understand what you are feeling. My situation is not as drastic as yours, but nevertheless the pain is still there. The good thing is that at least you've recognized his "true colors". I think "time" seems to be the best cure for our ... (read in full...)
Can we reach a point of healing this relationship? Is there hope?
Q. I'm in a troubled relationship. It's unhealthy, and we don't know what to do. We met through a mutual friend (who had been a very good friend of mine for years, and played mwith my bf in a band back then). We got along great. Five months later, an...
A. 2 March 2008: What I am about to tell you is probably not what you want to hear, but I think it must be said. POSSESSIVE AND JEALOUS GUYS ARE JUST BAD NEWS. I have experienced my share of these type of people. Some of which I consider my friends and some I've ... (read in full...)
I've had many moments with this guy. Should I just ask him out?
Q. There's this boy I really like and his friends keep hinting he likes me too. We used to sit next to each other in class and we got really close, he kept touching my leg and poking me and he'd look at me and once I'd noticed he was, he'd look away. ...
A. 2 March 2008: I know you are getting anxious, but I think maybe you should wait a while. Obviously, from your letter...I think he likes you. Let him chase you. Make him work to get your attention and love. If there is anything in life I've learned it would be ... (read in full...)
I asked her out and she said "I'm not sure..." I need to know!
Q. I like this girl and she likes me. We've been on a date and we kissed. Later on it started getting really heated snd we were kissing really passionately like we luv each other so much. Now I want to ask her out. So I asked her wot she would say if I ...
A. 28 February 2008: If I were you...I would definitely slow it down a little bit. She may be thinking it is going a little too fast. Be patient with her. Remember...Love suffers long and is kind. ... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend and shy... any tips?
Q. I'm going out with my first boyfriend, and I'm really shy about him. We've only hugged once and we've been going out for a week. I'm scared to go up to him in the halls and say hey, so I keep waiting for him to do the walking over to me but he ...
A. 28 February 2008: I dont think you should do anything. Let him take the lead. That is what boys and men are supposed to do. He may be shy too, so it may take some time. Just because he ignores you does not necessarily mean he does not like you. I'll bet that ... (read in full...)
I've had many moments with this guy. Should I just ask him out?
Q. There's this boy I really like and his friends keep hinting he likes me too. We used to sit next to each other in class and we got really close, he kept touching my leg and poking me and he'd look at me and once I'd noticed he was, he'd look away. ...
A. 28 February 2008: Question #1: No...let him ask you out. It's his role.
Question #2: No...let him ask you out. It's his job
Quesiton #3: Yes...definitely
Question #4: No...it means He wants to kiss YOU.
Honestly, why should you be doing all the work for him. L... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy???
Q. I have been dating this girl and I really want this to be a long lasting relationship. I have an issue with jealousy and I want to know how I can resolve this and get through it. My girlfriend had a boyfriend in the past and used to be obbsessed ...
A. 28 February 2008: I think all of us have some degree of jealousy. I think the main thing is what we do with it when it does happen. Nothing is more detrimental than to react impulsively to it. In most cases, that ugly churning jealous feeling that abides in us ... (read in full...)
Whatever happened to the days of romance?
Q. Whatever happened to those days of those true passionate romance? You know the ones like Romeo and Juliet. Their passion for each other was not only idyllic, but powerful and sexy. They never once hesitated in expressing and showing their love ...
A. 27 February 2008: Thanks for all your insights. Yup, I think I used the wrong illustration in choosing Romeo and Juliet as my focal point. I was looking more for context, meaning, and the message rather than literal assumptions. My bad...... (read in full...)
What is going on with my Air Force (and careless) boyfriend?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost four years now. We are the same age and graduated high school together. In October he joined the Air Force and went to basic training and now he is in tech school. I went to college and he wrote me about thre...
A. 27 February 2008: I think maybe he has a lot of things on his mind. It is possible that he is going through the most trying time in his life. I think the best approach is to lay low for a while. Don't call him...let him call you. Don't question him about not ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop my ex stalking me?
Q. I dated this girl in December only because I felt sorry for her and didn't want to turn her down, I know it was a dick move but it seemed right. We only dated for a week then I told her I didn't have time for a girlfriend and we should just be ...
A. 27 February 2008: If worse comes to worse....get a Restraining Order.... (read in full...)
I would not dare to go out with him because I'm afraid of a failure. Please help!
Q. Hey i've never had a proper bf before, well not a serious one anyway i seriously like a lad. W ehave been friends for a while and part of me thinks he likes me to. The thing is though i'm not saying anything will happen but if he does feel the same ...
A. 23 February 2008: I dont think anyone wants to get hurt, but would it be something you would regret doing? How would you ever know if he is the right one for you unless you take that leap of faith? We all have our fears and worries on what might or might not ... (read in full...)
Do any of you guys have any tricks that all males do to let girls know they're interested?
Q. This is a question for all the guys. I like a guy right now but it's really hard to tell what's going on in his mind. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me, sometimes he just never looks at me when he has the oppurtunity to, from a close distance. I ...
A. 22 February 2008: Okay...for the record...We DO NOT USE TRICKS. We call it "PERSUASIONS OF LOVE". Well, I think your guy is relatively shy. He looks at you from a distance because he feels safe and secure of not getting caught staring at you. He doesn't look at ... (read in full...)
What causes people to fall in love?
Q. Hey just curious here but i've always wondered what causes people to fall in love? I've never had a bf before and i like this lad who i'm friends with and these feelings all came on so suddenly about 3 months ago. Its like, oh i don't know, how do ...
A. 22 February 2008: My God...that is such a good question. Hmmm...maybe it is that longing that God puts in our hearts to love and be loved. I think all of us have different triggers that excite the emotional and sensual chemistry responses of our hearts and soul. ... (read in full...)
My partner tried to choke me and I'm wondering if I should give him another chance... he says he'll never do it again.
Q. My partner tried to choke me on one occasion and I am wondering if I should give him another chance. He says he loves me more than anything but he panicked and he's so sorry and says he will never hurt me again. He wants to get married - we were ...
A. 22 February 2008: I've walked the streets for many years and one of the familiar excuses I here in abuse type cases is..."He said he would never do it again..." But for some reason I'm always back at that same household and the injuries get worse and worse. I'm not ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying unnecessarily?
Q. I recently went to the doctor because I think I have a bladder infection, I have been given some antibiotics and I had to give a urine sample. I fear there is something really worng with me because you get loads of stories in the paper in magazines ...
A. 20 February 2008: If I am not mistaken I think bladder infection is quite common. I know several people who had it and antibiotics worked well for them. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Take care and Good luck.... (read in full...)
Any pointers to help me feel less anxious he is going to return to his nasty ways, and also help me deal with the overly flirty ex?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for about a year with no problems, however before this I previously went out with him for about a year when I was a lot younger (17), he was not the person he is now, at the time he was well known as a womaniser, and ...
A. 20 February 2008: When I was growing up I did a lot of bad things that I would consider shameful. It took me time and maturity to finally realize the gravity of what I have done. Since then, my convictions have surely taken me in a better direction...and I know I ... (read in full...)
A way to reduce the amount of hair I lose by washing? Worrying!
Q. I lose alot of hair when I wash it, I know its probably not concerning but I don't wanna go bald! Is there a way to reduce the amount i lose?...
A. 20 February 2008: Hair loss can be a result of many reasons specifically hereditary and stress. You might want to consult a doctor just to make sure. I believe there are some remedies that are available to control hair loss, but you may need to do your research. ... (read in full...)
We flirted, we messaged... but it's dull! How can I make this more interesting?
Q. Hello I've met a girl through a "meet me" application on the internet. I've started messaging her, but how can I make it more interesting? I don't want her to find me boring just because of how we're e-mailing. Basically, I "sent her a flirt" and...
A. 20 February 2008: Humor is always a good way to break the ice. Everyone opens up to laughter. Try starting your conversation with a joke or an exciting and fun topic. Keep it positive. No negatives or put downs. Ask her a thought provoking question...such as "If ... (read in full...)
I have never met anyone like her and she is the one that I want to spend my life with.
Q. I started work about september time and around christmas i started to like this girl who works there. I knew she was goin out with someone else but i talked 2 her friends and they said she doesnt know what she wants and she cant see what an idiot ...
A. 19 February 2008: I dont know...her boyfriend beams with insecurity, jealousy and possessive qualities. In a nutshell...dangerous. Obviously, she would need to make a stand and make a difficult choice. He is probably manipulating her mind with fear. It is ... (read in full...)
Should I fight to be with him or should I listen to my family and find someone else??
Q. Hi, The man that Im with is 20 years older than me and of the opposite race. He is the best thing Ive ever found. He sees that I have a shell around me because Ive been through a lot in my past. He wants me to talk to him, open up to him and let him ...
A. 18 February 2008: I think true love is very hard to come by. If you think you have found that special person than you need to fight to keep it going. Race should never be an issue...in ANYTHING. It is the content of a person's character that really matters. It is ... (read in full...)
I still don't trust him- should I leave?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. It's been rocky the whole time. I've had numerous problems with him and the internet.My first inkling something was wrong was when i found he had been searching for BBW's on my computer. I am hardly A BBW ...
A. 18 February 2008: I believe that trust is the most valuable commodity you can have in a long-term relationship. It is like a warm blanket on a cold night. Security is one thing, but what's the use if you are miserable. I'd rather live in a decrepit house with ... (read in full...)
How can you tell it was rape?
Q. I was 14 when it happened, most people don't believe me, not even my friends. I snuck out of the house to go meet 2 of my girlfriends and two of their guy friends. I had 7 shots, not that many but I passed out in the next 5 mintues. I keep waking u...
A. 18 February 2008: Through my experience in the field of law enforcement, a gynecologist or sex abuse treatment center should be able to determine if penetration was made especially if you are a virgin. Your body is the best indicator of evidence. Aches, pains, and ... (read in full...)
How can I increase confidence in myself and tell her how I feel??
Q. Hi everyone, There is this girl. we've been close, went to a school dance together. That was Saturday. I'm pretty sure she likes me and I know I like her. I want to tell her how I feel but whenever i try there is always something in my way or I...
A. 13 February 2008: Person to Person contact is only one of many ways in which you can express your feelings to another person. There are so many other ways in which you can reach out to her. It could be a love letter, a note with a flower, or a poem. Be creative in ... (read in full...)
She gives me mixed signals, I'm confused
Q. Looking for any advise here, I'm really confused. And sorry this is long, I like to ramble, and there is a long ish back story. I met a girl about 3 weeks ago when I was out with friends. There was an amazing attraction between us both straight aw...
A. 13 February 2008: I dont know how far its gone...but I think there is still away to get her back. It will depend on your tenacity. Have you ever heard the saying..."Girls say they want a "nice guy", but in reality they want an "Ape". I conferred this with many ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to try and make this work again??
Q. I've recently started seeing someone for two weeks. It felt like we relly clicked and had alot in common. We spent alot of time together and opened up about our past to each other, including our past relationships. I found out he is a very insecure...
A. 13 February 2008: I can't understand why you would want to be with him. Let him go...you are obviously better without him. He does not respect you. Respect is 1/3 of what a loving relationship needs. I am sure one day you will come across someone who will adore ... (read in full...)
Does he miss ME or having girl company?
Q. hey aunts Just wondering, how do you know if you're over your ex boyfriend? I mean, we were dating for 2 years and after 2 days of crying I stopped.. it was only when I really really thought about him which made me sad.. Then even though he ...
A. 13 February 2008: My question would be...Aren't you glad you left him? The way he talks to you is...I don't know...RUDE! Don't you think? Do you really want to be with someone who treats you like that? I mean we may all differ about opinions, but intimidating, ... (read in full...)
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