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writes:hey well i ve with my boyfriend for 10 months and i feel i can t easily forget him or break up but he's in a military school. he comes only on weekends where we spend the most beautiful times together but it's really hard to see him once a week only. and in summer he attends a camp in the military far away from here. i can't either talk to him so i m thinking of breaking up, but the idea is really hard. maybe i deserve someone i can see everyday. however, i love him so much and we talked about getting engaged when he finishes. how can i break up with him when i love him so much? what do you think, should i?
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reader, bellaa +, writes (12 June 2009):
bellaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question10 x all for your replies i think you helped me took my decision you are right i think he deserves much better than this because he is a good guy and i love him so i ll wait for him thank you all
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 June 2009):
Long distance sucks.
But do you honestly think that you will feel better if you split up with him?
Do you think that you will be able to get over this guy and then just find someone else? If you really do love him then I think splitting up with him won't help.
What you need to do is find a better way to cope.
Fill your evenings. Get new hobby. Get some books out of the library. Go out with your girl friends.
If you sit and think about how much you are missing him then of course you are going to be miserable. When my husband was in Iraq last year I could cry just thinking about him.
So knit a blanket or write a novel or hand make all your Christmas cards.
Fill your time and you won't miss him so much.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (10 June 2009):
 hey..
This is a really difficult sutuation. You have to really sit down and think about what you want to do. Being so far away from each other puts a strain on any relationship and him not coming home at the holidays probably makes it worse for you.
The thing of with this also is that there is the temptation of other boys or men around and without your boyfriend here then temptations seem harder to resist I'm sure.
You have to be strong and keep going. Keep as much contact as you can with him and really think about things as if you love him as much as you are saying then you will wait for him too return home and make the most of the time you have together when he is at home.
Like I said really think about this and your heart will tell you the correct path to follow!!
Let me know how things go...
Ellie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Or.. I was thinking.. Maybe you should break up with him. Because what happens if he gets deployed or has to go away for a really long time? You're thinking of breaking up with him now, so what would you do if things got tough? Would you cheat on him? Or leave him while he's in a high stress situation? Our soldiers are better off without women who are going to leave them while they're away. They don't need things to be more difficult. So if you really think you can't handle it, then break up with him for his own good. But hopefully you will see that when you really love someone, distance can't change that. It's up to you. Can we get armymedic or emilyanswers here? I need some backup.. I'm not sure about my advice here.. ~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): "maybe i deserve someone i can see everday"
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I'm honestly at a loss for words so i'll make it short. Don't you think HE deserves someone who can wait, and not even that long for him? Honey.. it's not that hard to wait or to not see him very often for that short period of time. Trust me.
Is he any less of a person becuase he has military camp? Are you two any less compatable because of it?
If you really do love him like you say you do, then you won't consider breaking up with him for somethign that he can't even help, and doens't change anythign about who he is.
My husband is in the Army. First i waited 4 months straight, then i waited 6 weeks, now i'm in the middle of 12 months.
You can be stronger than this.
~SY.
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