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writes:After a 14 year relationship of ups and downs in and outs we still love each other but he said it just won't work because of Family and the disagreements and things said in anger.... I believe that it could be and would be different, I was going through the change of life and it wasn't the real me. I was a different person and I knew it but couldn't help how I would be angry, grouchie,mean, crying at the drop of the hat. It was pure hell for me to go through it and them he would just say that his mother didn't go through it like that or you blame the change of life on everything. Well I am finally at the end of it and feel more like my old self. Still loving him and I know he loves me but won't even try because he said it just won't work. We would be casting things up at each other and it would just lead to an arguement. I also have to add that he's a very controling person and when he gets angry at me I am frightned that he'll explode. he has slapped me and mentally said things that make me feel worthless and low. I slaved around the 14 acher farmette. Mowed trimmed weed eat and clean house plant plants, grass on at least 3 achers. planted a garden, flowers, schrubs trees washed ironed and cooked I did what ever I could and worked Full Time. I really am in bad shape I was the one who left I thought he wanted me to. He was mean to me and I know how he is so I just left, even though I really loved him and didnt want to leave. He told me if I left I better make sure. I would have every thing to loose. Meaning Him. He wanted to get married and I didn't take him serious, He wanted me to sign a prenuptual and I said if we love each other then I felt that there wasn't any need to so we never attempted to set a date and now I wish , I had.The last time he texted me after a year of texting and seeing each other every 3 months. He is having Trouble with Prostrate and age but I love him not for only sex I love him and I suppose it never will be the two of us ever againREGRETING MY DECISION BJ
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 Your post made me cry and highlights again to me how fragile we are in our suffering. Life, at times deals us harsh blows and we don't and often can't make the right decision...we just do what we feel is best at the time. Sometimes we look back through rose tinted glasses from a grassless place or field of sacrifice and wonder why we did, what we did...
You obviously did a lot for this man and it seems not all was perfect. Things came to an end and facing life alone can make you yearn to go back to what you knew...it's not always the best thing to do and striding out to face the rest of your life, head on, is a very difficult and uncomfortable thing to do...but there is always hope :-)
Keep the channels of communication open where you can...even a once a year 'how are you' letter can be enough to soothe your soul.
See what happens but do things for you, discover the world again (even if your heart is hurting) You have worked hard...you deserve some peace and tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of your life.
God bless you and give you hope for the future.
Aunty Em xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Looking for someone to vent to? I don't see a quesiton..
correct me if i'm missing it.
Regret is not a good thing to feel. It's a waste energy becuase no matter what you can do, you can't change the past. It can be frustrating and damn near kill a person.
So the best thing you can do now is work on your present and stop thinking of the past. Think of ways to make you happy now, with what you've got. Try to find positive people to surround yourself with and distressing activites.
Look to your future. That's all I really know to say.
I'm sorry.
Best of Luck.
~SY.
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