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How to please the fiancee after making the stupid mistakes?

Q.   *OP's own title* Having problem .... i have got engaged, earlier we used to have a good relation, now from last week or so due to certain issues we are not just talking properly. It used to be long silence over phone, i tries to ask certain ques...

A.   25 April 2010: I believe there are no mistakes when it comes to love. If you really love her (which it sounds like you do), then the way that things happen is exactly the way that they were meant to happen. I wish you the best of luck :)... (read in full...)

Is he REALLY that nice?

Q.   I got of an abusive relationship about a month ago. I recently started seeing a friend of mine I have been friends with for a few years. I was never allowed to hang out with him but always kept in touch with him secretly online. He's the complete ...

A.   25 April 2010: I agree with janniepeg. Please have faith that there really are nice guys, and the nice guy you're with just might be the one for you. :)... (read in full...)

Married for two years, but we don't understand each other

Q.   Have been married for two years but we dont quite undestand each other we fight over nothing and sometimes i feel like we were not meant to be together. please help (MOD NOTE: Text edited for clarity)...

A.   23 April 2010: I think we'll need more details to help you. Certainly, communication is one of the most important aspects in a relationship. How is it that you are not understanding each other?... (read in full...)

How to please the fiancee after making the stupid mistakes?

Q.   *OP's own title* Having problem .... i have got engaged, earlier we used to have a good relation, now from last week or so due to certain issues we are not just talking properly. It used to be long silence over phone, i tries to ask certain ques...

A.   23 April 2010: I do know that you love your girl so much. You love her so much you put her first, even first before your own personal and professional life. And that is amazing. You sound like a great guy. There are tons of girls out there who wish they could ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her?

Q.   this is a question mostly for the ladies- how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two o...

A.   23 April 2010: It's so good to hear that there are plenty of females out there who have a high sex drive, not just for the sex, but for the love and intimacy they feel from it. I recently broke up with my girlfriend because my sex drive was much higher than her... (read in full...)

My ex showing mixed signals?

Q.   She is now dating a girl and she hated my guts for a while but recently, she called my name out really loud in the hall, told me to come here, and hugged me.... I confused.... Does she still have feelings for me? I've been avoiding her for a long ...

A.   22 April 2010: It doesn't sound like she still likes you. Just calling out your name and hugging you is not a sign she wants you back. Maybe she is just being friendly. You say she called your name in the hall. Are you guys going to school together? Or do yo... (read in full...)

How do I make myself seem sick so I don't have to go visit his family?

Q.   I am supposed to go up north (Michigan) with my boyfriend's dads side of the family. i don't want to go because he has never been close with them and it's uncomfortable. The last time i went i had a horrible time. I want to make my boyfriend think i ...

A.   22 April 2010: No one will win if you lie to your boyfriend. You will have deceived your boyfriend, and this will not be a good foundation for your relationship to grow into something more meaningful. If you really care about your boyfriend, you will need to ... (read in full...)

How to please the fiancee after making the stupid mistakes?

Q.   *OP's own title* Having problem .... i have got engaged, earlier we used to have a good relation, now from last week or so due to certain issues we are not just talking properly. It used to be long silence over phone, i tries to ask certain ques...

A.   22 April 2010: I am really sorry, but just based on this discussion, I think you should break up with her. You deserve someone that you can communicate with. You deserve someone who is crazy about you who won't insult you. If you're engaged, you deserve some... (read in full...)

No sex before marriage please!

Q.   Hi I'm 20 and the opposite person it's between 25-27 years old I would like to ask for some advice. I have a boyfriend he really loves me cares about me and likes having sex. I feel the same way too and I think we're meant to be together but I ...

A.   20 April 2010: If he is changing the subject, then he is not a good communicator. And if he is not a good communicator, then he may not be the perfect man to marry. Most important: if you firmly believe in the bible and have decided not to have sex before m... (read in full...)

How can he tell these lies???

Q.   i am feeling so angry and stupid right now, me and my boyfriend broke up, i found out he was spending nights with someone else, he did not tell me,(although they swear as just friends), he knows that i do not trust him yet as he did cheat on me in ...

A.   20 April 2010: Hey girl, I'm a guy, and I don't understand it either. I don't understand how some guys can cheat, lie, and so selfishly manipulate others just to get what they want. But if he lied to you, he is lying to his current girl also. It may take a... (read in full...)

How can I forgive myself and move on?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have had some misunderstandings lately. He had been very unresponsive to my efforts to contact him, and would take hours to reply to text messages, sometimes even a whole day. I knew he was having some problems at home, but ...

A.   20 April 2010: Sometimes forgiving yourself can be harder and take longer than someone else forgiving you. It's really good to hear that things are better for both of you now, and that you're moving forward. Eventually, try to understand that you are human, a... (read in full...)

Husband says he wants only me so why is he still looking at personal ads?

Q.   My husband and I had a huge disagreement over a chat I was having with a friend of the oppistie sex and he wanted a divorce. He joined an online dating site and even tried to meet girls from personal adds. After long talks we decided to work it out. ...

A.   18 April 2010: Very simply, your husband does not feel special right now. If you care about your marriage, you need to stop talking to other males immediately. You need to make your husband feel amazingly special. There are endless ways to do this, and I w... (read in full...)

Am I a friend or someone more, to her?

Q.   I have a situation in which I can not understand where it will go. Recently an old ex from high school contacted me after 8 yrs of no word (Bad breakup). Since then we have hung out twice in the last month. I would love for it to be more but she is ...

A.   18 April 2010: To find out if she wants to be more than friends, simply ask her. Don't let her play you. Don't let her make you drive two hours just because she feels lonely. You have too much respect for yourself, and you owe it to yourself to know whether ... (read in full...)

Why don't guys like me? What is wrong with me???

Q.   What is wrong with me?? why dont guys like me? guys never wanna get serious with me.. they always make me think if they even like me.. they are nice and sweet, calling, texting then they just change and move on without even breaking with me ...

A.   18 April 2010: If you think you'll be lucky enough to never get into a serious relationship, you are wrong :) Eventually you will find the right guy at the right time who will want to be in a serious relationship with you. (And then you just might wish you w... (read in full...)

Help understanding what women really want

Q.   When it comes to men why is women picky? why is it women always say they want a good man but then its like you have to be a certain height,certain race, and have all of these materialistic things just to be wit them and on top of that they alw...

A.   18 April 2010: This is not true about women at all, but I understand how you feel. It sounds like this is just a generalization about the women you are metting or are coming in contact with. There are many women who don't care about materials, height, race, et... (read in full...)

Is it my fault that he couldn't cum?

Q.   I've been dating a guy for a little over 3 months now. 2 months into the relationship, I gave him his first blowjob, but we had to stop before he finished because we had to go somewhere. I tried again a month later, we were finally able to ensure a...

A.   18 April 2010: I am 26, and I usually don't cum when my girlfriend or past girlfriends have given me a blowjob. It was great watching her go down on me, but for some reason there just wasn't enough friction and physical sensation to get me to cum. One time ... (read in full...)

It's a solid marriage but I miss sex

Q.   Can a marriage survive without sex? My husband and me are totally not sexual anymore.. I feel,my sexuality is dead. He is impotent , not medical. He is healthy,was checked out.. And never looks at me as a man,looks at a woman. But he says he loves ...

A.   18 April 2010: I am only 26 and male, so I may not understand the situation. I guess I would recommend talking to him about it. You're certainly not the only couple out there with this issue. If he really cares, maybe you can get him to look into Viagra or C... (read in full...)

Tired of getting shot down

Q.   Hey guys and gals...I have everything I need to live alone and independently, but that's the problem i'm living myself and it's getting lonely. I haven't had any dates in forever and somehow I feel tired all the time whenever I think about going out ...

A.   18 April 2010: Hey man I was in the same boat when I was about 24. Had my own place, worked really hard, made a great living, but for some reason couldn't get a girlfriend. The solution: free online dating. I would recommend plentyoffish.com. You can literall... (read in full...)

Is it wrong that I am taken aback by my wife admitting how many people she has slept with?

Q.   me and my wife are both 30 and been together for 12 months. we recently did the "how many people have you slept with" conversation and she confessed to sleeping with 36 people, mine is 12. am i wrong to feel slightly taken aback by her sleeping with ...

A.   18 April 2010: Sounds like you're pretty happy and not obsessing about this too crazily, which is a really good thing. After all you probably think your wife is amazing regardless of how many people she's been with. Good luck with everything :)... (read in full...)

Breaking up by text message. I find it rude and immature!

Q.   My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. ...

A.   11 April 2010: Sounds great. Break up with her; the words you used are perfect. And yes, it is immature, rude and inconsiderate to break up via text message. You don't want to be with someone like that anyway. Good luck and take care.... (read in full...)

How to please the fiancee after making the stupid mistakes?

Q.   *OP's own title* Having problem .... i have got engaged, earlier we used to have a good relation, now from last week or so due to certain issues we are not just talking properly. It used to be long silence over phone, i tries to ask certain ques...

A.   11 April 2010: I'm sorry to hear that your engagement is sad, stressful, leaves more to yearn for, and lacks communication. I believe communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. If both of you cannot communicate lovingly, respectf... (read in full...)

Our anniversary soon, what can I do to surprise him on a budget?

Q.   My boyfriend's and mine anniversary is coming up soon. We live together but all our spare cash is going to saving up to buy a place, so we tend to live on a tight budget. I told him I would be happy with a night in with a DVD, but I want to ...

A.   11 April 2010: I would surprise him in a way that makes him feel really loved. In general, there are five different ways to make someone feel loves: 1. physical 2. time 3. service 4. words 5. gifts If he loves being physical (hugging, cuddling,... (read in full...)

Dating one girl but feel the "playboy" urge in me becoming stronger and stronger

Q.   Greetings everybody! I've been having some (what I perceive to be) "bad signs" lately when it comes to my commitment to my relationship. I'm wondering what kind of advice people have for me. A little background information: A few years ago,...

A.   11 April 2010: Hey man, it's so great that you're talking about it with other people and thinking deeply and processing everything that is going on. I think this shows that you are smart, mature and want the best for everyone. It sounds like maybe you're n... (read in full...)

Does porn improve bj technique

Q.   Ok this one is mostly for the guys.. I was wondering if watching people in porn (i don't just mean pornstars but "amateurs" too) give oral is a good place to pick up tips. What do you think? Would you encourage your gf to copy some of the more por...

A.   9 April 2010: Yes, absolutely. The girls in adult films do give great blowjobs. If you want to give your boyfriend great blowjobs and not boring ones, I would certainly recommend picking up tips from xxx films.... (read in full...)

Is it wrong that I am taken aback by my wife admitting how many people she has slept with?

Q.   me and my wife are both 30 and been together for 12 months. we recently did the "how many people have you slept with" conversation and she confessed to sleeping with 36 people, mine is 12. am i wrong to feel slightly taken aback by her sleeping with ...

A.   9 April 2010: Your question specifically asks if 36 is a high number of people. I think that yes, 36 is a high number of people. But I am a guy and I don't know what this number is like from a female perspective. Maybe it's not that high for a girl. ... (read in full...)

Are men just 'wired' to want to sleep around?

Q.   Sandra Bullock. Elin Woods. Shania Twain. Jennifer Aniston. Sienna Miller (both the cheater and the cheatee). Today's news brings information on Gabrielle Beauvouis (can't spell her name) also being cheated upon for 5 years. Kate fucking Gosselin. ...

A.   9 April 2010: No, I don't think that all men are wired to sleep around. I know a lot of great guys who are looking for a wonderful wife, and the thought of sleeping around or cheating is simply a completely foreign language to them. I myself have a huge sex ... (read in full...)

Do I have the right to flip and stop dating him? Or should I ignore the age discrepancy?

Q.   I just typed in the e-mail address of the guy I'm currently dating into google, and it came up on 2 websites. They're random websites for cagefighting, but on one it says his age is 23, and on the other it says his age is 24. He told me he was 2...

A.   9 April 2010: I think it depends on how long you have been dating and how much you care about him. Based on your question, it sounds like maybe you haven't been dating him that long. If you're ready to move on and just want to date someone else, I would du... (read in full...)

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