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writes:i have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and 4 months. he is 69 years old but is very young at heart. his brother was killed 39 years ago and since then his brother's wife has remarried and does not have a good marriage. the day that his brother was killed his wife told my boyfriend who was married at that time that she wanted him since his brother died. she later married a man and they do not have a good marriage. it is really a business marriage because they have some many business deals that it would cost too much to get a divorce. they live seperatly in different states. his sister-in-law made some suggestive remarks to him on the phone last july when we had broken up. i heard them when i came over to his house one day. since we are back together, she has gotten her feelings hurt because she was coming into town to visit my boyfriend's new twin grandchilren. what she really wanted was to stay at his house and i told him absolutely no. i stay at his house with him and i refuse to leave so she can stay here. he does not see anything wrong with this because he says that he would never want to get involved with her. he also thinks that it is alright to have lunch with her when he goes through her town where she lives. i just don't think it is good to do this when you are in a committed relationship. what do you guys think and also what do you think i should do about it. this family as i have said before is very dysfunctional. thanks
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 April 2008):
 Since she is his brother's widow, she is still kind of family. However she does sound very unstable and definitely dangerous. I guess I would try to always be with him whenever she is going to be around. I wouldn't let her be alone with him not because I didn't trust your boyfriend but because she certainly doesn't sound trustworthy. But like I said before she is family, sort of.
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