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writes:Hello aunts and uncles, long time no see. Like, 2 months. Well, I have a new problem, and this is going to annoy me until I get an answer, so your support would be appreciated.In about a week, 10th grade is starting for me, and by God, I got thing left and right waiting for me already, such as someone who hates me and says he wants to mess me up, but from everything my friends (who have gone to this school 1 year longer than me) say, he's shortstuff, and I'm kind of tall, with enough muscle to hold my own in a fight. So there's the first thing: enemies I don't even know.Next, is, as always with me, girls! I know there are going to be a lot of girls there from my previous school, including my two ex girlfriends, who are also my first two. What I need to know is how to go about approaching these new girls, that I don't know. This is also a work in progress, so expect something about this in about 3 weeks. How do I deal with the hateful ex and the clingy ex? They've both made my 4th quarter in 9th grade hell, and I'm worried they may screw me up this hear.Last, but not least, this is going to be my first time AT a high school for attendance, as opposed to being there to get a friend. The district here sucks, and put 9th grade in middle school. How do I deal with a huge crowded place where it's apes mixed in with teddy bears? I hate huge crowded areas, in confined places like a high school hallway.Thank you all who helped me so far. Sorry for the long period of being gone, but in back again, and in need of some serious help."No matter what they say to you, words are only that.. words. Until someone throws a punch, you're safe in this community."-Førg€-
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reader, Forge +, writes (18 August 2014):
Forge is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes, my first girlfriends, for those that mentioned it, or will mention it.
I understand that this kid who wants to fight me could have done it over the summer, but that's assuming he knew where I lived. I know that he lives a ways away from me, but I don't know exactly where. I don't care to know either.
This is what I've got so far, but expect more questions in the near future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): Being in a crowded school will be to your advantage. If the guy who wants to mess you up hasn't done it yet, he could have done that over the summer. You're getting your mind full of scary thoughts when everybody you are worried about will be going through the same stuff you are. If people make your life hell; it's because you let them, or did something to them.
Stand-up for yourself. What can the exes do but be annoying.
Ignore them. Block them on your phone, and walkaway. Yes, they will bad-mouth you, and start crap. Just ignore them until they go away. People only have power when you give it to them. When they can't scare you, they leave you alone.
Everyone gets nervous about the first day of high school.
It's universal. Concentrate on your schoolwork and stay out of trouble.
Forge, I've read and responded to posts from you before. You say things to people and sometimes you create the problems you have with your friends other kids.
You have to learn not to be a smart-Alick and tame your attitude. You tell everyone you don't have feelings and don't respond to things that bother other people. Then you turn around and explain how bothered you are. Just relax and be a kid.
Stop trying to be super-human and you'll be okay. You're a cool kid and if you find a place to direct all your energy, I think you'll get through the school semester like everybody else.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 August 2014):
 You clear your mind of all the angst and difficulties that you are imagining will take place.... You exhibit good posture.... You smile, always.... and make pleasant conversation.... Make you body language - and your actual language "say" "I'm a nice guy... and I want to be friends, and hang with, other nice people."
I predict that these details will make things pretty easy for you to slip in to your new environment...
Good luck.... and STUDY HARD!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): Trust me, you're not the only one thinking all of these questions when they start at high school. No matter what you may think, everyone makes it to and from school and with the push and drive it takes in classes, you'll get through without a care in the world. As for this boy that wants to 'screw you up', forget about him. The last thing you need is to be picking fights with people you don't know. Your friends are likely winding you up and making you feel worse, stop stressing out about him and ignore your friends, if the time comes and you meet this boy, tell him you don't want any trouble and if he persists then deal with it however you deem fit. But remember, you don't know this boy and you don't know what he's capable of, and the same goes for him, try and avoid confrontation with him, it'll make your school life a lot easier. And girls, the unanswerable questions about women haha. You're young, you've got your whole life ahead of you, do you really need to worry right now about girls and picking up girls? Sure, all high school boys want a pretty little lady on their arm, it's no surprise that you're asking, but the fact you're so young and you've already got a hateful ex and a clingy ex... that's a little concerning. And they're both your 'firsts', I'm assuming you mean girlfriends only there? When you get to high school, everything will fall into place. Your ex's will find new interests and friends, you're likely to make new friends and some of them will have female friends that you'll talk to. All you have to do is be yourself, just say hi and chat with people, your aim doesn't have to be to get a girlfriend straight away. Find your feet in high school and get to know who you're dealing with before you jump in at the deep end. And finally, crowded places. Everywhere you go in life you're going to find, as you put it 'apes mixed in with teddy bears', it's the way of the world. Don't fall into cliques and don't judge people too quickly, sometimes that can be your own downfall. And if you don't like crowded places, hang back a couple of minutes until people have moved and then you can go to class more easily. High school isn't like what you see on TV, alright, there are similar aspects of that in schools, but in reality, you'll find high school is a lot easier than they make it out to be. Your hardest part is getting the grades. Don't worry yourself too much, sure, it's nerve racking, but enjoy the experience while you've got it. You're not young forever and you'll make it through like the rest of us. Good luck :)
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