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writes:me and this guy have been together for seven months he alway use to say i fuss to much when we broke up we were still seeing each other over the summer and i just found out he was dating this girl i use to hear people say he talked to when we were together to make a story short i love this guy and i wont to have another chance with him but i dont think thats going to happen should i try and forgive him if he wiiling to do that or noti love this boy we not together anymore he is with a girl he cheated on with but i want to look pass that and be with him if he willing to do that what should i do whn all he say is i fuss to much[MOD NOTE: Two questions from the OP have been posted as one]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): I think if he is now dating someone else then you should respect that and just be a friend. If that is too painful for you, then the best thing to do is to just move on.
Really, you don't have much of a choice here. He doesn't seem interested in you, if after only a few months he has broken it off with you and is still dating, he seems to be just playing the field. That is what you should do, too.
Just take your focus off of this one guy and do things you enjoy and accept dates from others....you may find one you like even better and who likes you more.
I am unclear on the "cheating", it doesn't seem he ever asked you for a "relationship". Just because a guy is seeing you and spending time with you, you can't assume it is exclusive unless he asks you to be.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (30 August 2009):
 First of all if you broke up and he dated someone else, that's not cheating.
Second, you can forgive but the real question here is whether you want to trust him. If you can't trust him then you're not going to be happy.
It seems to me that you're upset about him being out there and available and now that there's some interest again, you don't want to have to compete with other girls to keep him.
This is natural. But at your age, boys are not apt to commit that easily, and frankly neither are girls.
You can try, keep an open mind, and see how things develop.
If he is not running around on you, then you have a good shot. What keeps him from looking elsewhere at this stage is how you treat him and how into you he will be.
That basically it. So if you start it up again, play it cool and take your time. See how things unfold first. Don't throw everything into this and take things slowly.
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