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writes:It's like I'm being suffocated!!!! My boyfriend is so clingy!!! I don't know how to get him to give me some space!!!! I mean when I want to be with my friends he gets all mad!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO!!! Should I break up with him or should I ignore him???? What should I do???sammie Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Most people that are clingy are insecure about the relationship. They are insecure of failing. What happens they over analyze everything especially when the significant other isn't around. The more insecure you are the worse the imagination can get. What is lacking in this is trust. He doesn't trust you. Maybe some of it has to do with your own behavior but of it has to do with him. If a man is insecure about a relationship he tries to control as much of it as possible. You being away with friends makes him think that he loses control.Before you break up I would suggest that you talk to him. Not in a threatening way but in a very understanding way to see what his insecurities are. Next what you can do is to suggest to take him with when you meet your friends. I don't mean all the time but simply so he gets to know them and maybe this way he feels a little more secure about you as well as himself. Don't do anything that would possibly untrustworthy. That way it is all on the guy and you have nothing to blame yourself for.Be a little patient. If he does get verbally abusive about your friends or even to you because you want to go out. Do not accept it. It is disrespectful. I hope this helps. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): OMG!!! OMG!!! i just had the same experience!! im like 13 years old and my bf and i are best friends [and still are even after what went on between us]. if he is really that clingy - to the point of getting mad about you just being with your friends - then end this relationship. its not right for him to hog you all the time from your friends. And after all, he should accept the fact that you being with your friends doesn't mean that you're going to forget about him. Good Luck!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Tell him that you need some space to be with your friends and do your studies some nights too. Let him know that you don't want to break up with him, you like him a lot - but you do need to balance things, seeing one another so often (especially when you don't feel the same way) isn't healthy and he will eventually become a pain. Suggest a couple of nights that would suit you or ask him what nights suit him and try to make a compromise.
~Eve~
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (20 February 2008):
 dont break up with him...give him time try talk things through show that you care but you do need time with your friends too...
how long have u been together???
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