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writes:I have taken back my boyfriend that cheated on me. Big mistake???My b/f's relationship with his ex, was about 5 weeks long.I was good friends with his ex, until they split and we started a relationship.We have been going out for 2 1/2 yrs.Me and his ex stopped being friends, but still talked now and then.My b/f and her continued being friends after they split.I always felt insecure about her because i knew that she still wanted him, just by seeing the texts she would send him. Recently my friends told me they had kissed twice, on 2 different occasions,no alchol invovled.After a couple days of him begging and crying i took him back. He had already stopped talking to her before i found out. Now he has completely erased her, lets me go through his phones and anything. He seems really sorry, and has begged and sworn on his mum and grandma it will never happen again and that it was the biggest mistake of his life.though the last 9 months i have been meeting my "ex crush" behind his bk, never cheated though.. please help..he knows about the meeting with the "ex crush" he was really hurt about it,but we are trying to start fresh, so i thought it was right for him to know.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 If you want to give "starting fresh" a try, then do it. Your boyfriend does seem pretty sorry for what he's done and I think it's possible that he really won't do it again. And you probably need to cut this 'ex-crush' out of your life. Or, if you do meet with him - even if it's platonic - be honest and open about it with your boyfriend. I'd talk to him about it before you even make plans, and see if he's okay with it, because a relationship that has been through rough patches like yours... well, the trust needs to be re-built.
I'd give it a shot. 2 and a half years is a lot to throw away over two kisses.
If it happens again, it probably is time for both of you to be single again.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, baby blue fairy  +, writes (11 February 2007):
well what you've both done is wrong rather than feeling this way you need to tell him at least then you wont feel you're living a lie with him he obviously loves you and if you are over your ex make a go of it with him but sit down be honest tell him everything and in return he will tell you all. You're still seeing your ex even if you're not cheating. make sure your bf knows this first good luck
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