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writes:Hi I have been seeing this guy for10 months he has moved into my home and is sweet and I'm so in love. I found porn on his phone which I don't mind but now I have found this site called f^^k buddy Could he be cheating? I work, he doesn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2015): I think that is very inappropriate. He is dating you and even moved in with you yet appears to have a wandering eye. What does he do all day anyway? He is living in your house, he doesn't work and he looks at porn all day. Are you sure you got yourself a catch? Is that the kind of guy you are into? Obviously the guy is really bored and has too much time on his hands. But why on Earth is he not working? Based on all these factors, I wouldn't put it past him that he cheats. A guy that age who moves into his girlfriends house, doesn't work and looks at porn all day has no shame and very little pride. If there is no voice in his head, such as a conscience, reminding him everyday that he is acting like a total bum and needs to shape up, then there is probably still no voice in his head to remind him that it is inappropriate to cheat.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 January 2015):
 HE'S NOT WORKING... IS HE contributing to the running of the household financially?
and yeah he looks at porn and that brings viruses and pop ups all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2015): Nothing wrong with keeping an eye on a man. You are protecting your own heart. Only you can do this. So go ahead and keep yourself informed if this makes you feel better. He does not have to know.But I agree with the posters that it could have popped up as a sponsor or junk because he has viewed porn sites. So you cannot really hang your hat on that as evidence.Just keep a watchful eye to see if there are any changes in his behaviour or schedule or demeanour or how affectionate or not affectionate he is with you. Is the sex still frequent? Because if or when the sex stops, then you really have to question what is going on. All these things added up could spell trouble.But men look at porn sites. Boys will be boys. And so do women for that matter.Also, 10 months in seems much too early to be contemplating cheating in a relationship, doesn't it?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 January 2015):
 I agree. Sometimes sites like that link up and auto-pop up on the screen because they are paid sponsors of all that porn he's watching. Sometimes it's sites like that with the tag-line (F*** a girl in **whatever town** tonight), and it's nothing more than a nuisance for him to get it out of the way to close. The other nuisance sites are like livewebcams and such.
Why are you surveilling his phone?? You shouldn't be doing that. Snooping is also a break of trust, and it's pretty ironic that you, who are looking for ways he's breaking your trust, are so easily dismissive of the fact that you're violating his every time you break into his cell phone.
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 January 2015):
 Doubtful. Watching porn links you to all of these other sites like that. It's possible and most likely it was just an advertisement. I wouldn't be too worried.
However, anything is possible. But if he's given you no indication of anything being wrong, I wouldn't worry too much. Take care.
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