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writes:I've been hanging out with a co-worker friend of mine who is a guy 2 months ago. And we've got very attached to eachother, but the thing is that he has a girlfriend and a child with her. His girlfriend is bipolar with a very bad temper. He's told me that he developed feelings for me a couple weeks ago and that he's planing to leave his girlfriend (not his daughter) this week. He said that he's been planning this before he ever had feelings for me and that he needs to do this for himself. Which is good. Now, in between those two weeks of knowing that we like each other his girlfriend saw me in his car after we had lunch on our break from work and she flipped! she came after me, but i was already in my car driving away. That night she saw us together he came over my place and we kissed. We kissed once before but it was more like a peak and this kiss was more intense. I feel bad that it happened because he has a girlfriend still and i wouldn't like that being done to me. I know i should stop what we are doing until he takes care of his situation and before it gets too deep. He says that he's going to take care of the situation the best he can for his daughter so that she gets least hurt because he doesn't trust his baby momma to be by herself with the baby when he breaks up with her. He understands if i want nothing to do with him because of the whole baby momma drama but tells me that he doesn't want to stop seeing me because he has feelings for me and i make him happy. So what i need help with is..what should i do?? I like him too and he makes me happy but he's in this bad situation . Do you think he's just playing with me or using me? or do you think its sincere ? Be honest :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You everyone for your honesty! My consciousness is eating away at me. I know what I should do and stay away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): Im so glad the Anon male picked up the abuser aspect: this guy is far from the nice cheating man with a bipolar common law wife.
Hey what goes around comes around, right? Hun, see the way he is treating his gf: the lies, half truths, him playing around with you: guess what ? Can u imagine. How he will spin tales about u to the next woman he cheats with.
Oh and BTW, there is nothing wrong with being bi polar. These people did not ask for this medical conditions. These people are innocent so plse do not judge them/her bec u have no clue what they go through. I have clients and family members (professionals i will add) that are diagnosed with this condition. With proper treatment they can and do lead quality lives. Its just a**holes in their lives who turn this medical condition against them.
U are already cheating with this guy and well u know the old saying: dont sh1t where u eat? Well, u know this man for just 2 months, a colleague? Are u not worried about your repoutation?
LoveGirl
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 If I were in your shoes I would sit back and wait to see what develops. You both know that there is feeling there so wait until he sorts his life out and then see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): "I feel bad that it happened because he has a girlfriend still and i wouldn't like that being done to me."
Remember the Golden Rule, here it is in one of its various forms "One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated."
He says "he's gonna..."
Well, that is BS. He's not treating anyone right, not you, not her, and not his daughter.
If he needs to end a relationship, then he needs to do the right thing and end it. Instead, he is having both relationships be crappy.
Get away from the abuser, this is emotional abuse of her, and it will be emotional abuse to you...your turn is coming.
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