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writes:I am completly in love with someone and we are going out. The problem is that he already has a girlfriend who is one of my best mates and is really sensitive. The thing is I've heard he slept with her and he promised me he wouldn't and I did a test with my mate a pregnancy one and it came out positive. I know he can't leave her now but I also know that he doesn't love her. I'm not sure what to do, whether to end it with him but then again I do truly love him and he does me as well! Please help I'm really confused!
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reader, hfritz1988  +, writes (19 October 2010):
WEIRD! i am going through the same stuff. except im alittle further on in the situation. my boyfriend (which im still with) cheated on me the first week we were dating with his ex. she got pregnant. we did a paternity test and it came back his. AND GUESS WHAT????????? he wants nothing to do with her and that child. but it is still scary because you'll never know if he will leave you again you know? im still dealing with emotional bull shit. i just want you to know that if you two are really in love...you can overcome anything. ANYTHING. hope things work out!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 October 2010):
So he has a girlfriend already, which makes him a cheat. She's your best friend, which doesn't look good for you, and now she's pregnant, which means all those dreams you had about him are wrecked, because he'll have to pay for the baby before you, pay for his girlfriend and the baby to have a house before you, forget holidays, trips, cars etc.
Really this is a bad situation for you to be in.
1 - He has a girlfriend who is pregnant.
2 - He won't leave that girlfriend. Ever.
3 - He's a cheat.
4 - He's a liar
5 - You're stabbing your own friend in the back.
6 - The baby will always come first.
7 - He doesn't love you. If he did, he would have left her before having sex with her (which he promised he wouldn't)
I tell you, the day a woman works out that cheating men don't give a damn will be a breath of fresh air. Yet again, you are another example of a woman who has allowed herself to be used, lied to and degraded. What a reputation you will have if this comes out. You will look just terrible.
If you wish to have a life of misery and lies, keep pretending this guy loves you even though he won't leave.
If you want to mean something more to a decent guy, end it now and run a mile.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 October 2010):
 End it with him. You are in love with somebody who is sleeping with other women. It shows a complete lack of respect for you. Run away.
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