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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I recently started talking to a guy online. We hit it off right away and were constantly talking via texting and video calling. He expressed a lot of interest and said he would work really hard to make us work..he'd always call when on break at work and after work.. he was always very sweet and promised to always keep in touch... just the other night he was saying how he was so dedicated to me and making us work. Well then the next day, he became distant said texting back and forth was tiring...and I told him I understand that.. I tend to be negative and always look at the worst scenario so I asked him if I did anything wrong and why is he distancing himself?he simply replied saying why are you being paranoid and negative? And told me to stop myself from thinking like that, and that he's not distancing himself.I just told him I'm making sure I didn't do anything wrong .. however that is the last time I heard from him..he didn't respond ro my text and I haven't bothered him since! I am not sure what went wrong and why would a guy tell you he likes you and is dedicated to you and then just stop talking? It has been over a day that I last heard from him. I would really like to talk to him again but I'm not sure if I should initiate contact or how long should I wait .. I would love to call him but I'm afraid of that rejection when he doesn't answer or call back. This only lasted a week and a half but I still enjoyed talking to him and I would like to know why he's avoiding me all of a sudden. I told myself I'll wait until Monday to call/text but I'm not sure what to say. I really need some advice on what I should do. I really don't want to completely stop talking to him..I keep hoping he'll contact me.. what is the best way to contact him and what should I say without sounding desperate or clingy? Any ideas on why his behavior suddenly changed? We had a chat one night about he would never just avoid me and how he can see himself dating me and that he doesn't see any flaws in me.. I am so confused...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2011): Why dont you go out and meet someone like normal people do. This online stuff is extremely desperate. Its sad to see people so lonely that they turn to a computer. I feel embarrassed for them.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (12 November 2011):
 I can think of many reasons; 1) His mother may have seen his on-line chats and taken away his privilages. 2) his wife may have caught him. his parole office may have intercepted his chats with a minor. His hard drive might have craashed. 3) Or...he may have just been an insincere jerk messing with you. On-line relationships are as silly as herding cats.
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reader, asap09marc +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Hi Chick, get back online and dont lay all your eggs in one basket. Sometimes people can switch from one online contact to another. It could be she lets him watch her on webcam, so his interest is there for now. I would go back online and get another. There are hundreds more just like him,so dont get too attached. Remember,they can tell you anything you want to hear and not all are genuine. A lot also have partners and cannot always be available or they might get caught.
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