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writes:My wife and I have been married for 4 years, and all through that time, we have had a "so-so" sex life.My main problems are:In order for my wife to have an orgasm, she has to be on top. Now, most of the time, I cannot keep from coming long enough for her to have an orgasm. Whe she starts the full in-out stroke instead of grinding, I can't last long at all.And when she does orgasm, it's usually very small, and not very satisfying for her.I want to be able to come when I'm ready. I want to be able to make sex last longer, but most of all, I really want to be able to satisfy her. I want to blow her away! Any suggestions on how I should do this would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): GOOD NEW GREAT
TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot! Both of these responses have helped quite a bit. Things aren't perfect yet, but I can already see some changes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Oh yea hunny
There are also alot of herbal remedys on the net to help hold your ejaculation, And also there is an exercise called kegel here is a link love
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
Hope this helps LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
It all depends if your wife is up for experimenting as well but here goes nothing...Women get more powerfull orgasms from clitoral stimulation and if she were to touch herself while you watched that would be a turn on for both of you, ( no touching mate!!!!) Yea its a tease! shame on me, Now just before she is ready and you both have to be open but you sound it, You enter her and with that she should have one hell of an amazing cracatoa (If thats how you spell it) Another way thats good for her is to turn around facing your feet and to do the clitoral stimulation from that angle while she is gently sliding up and down, Its good for you and its exciting for her. If you find your self exploding to quickly hunny you could masturbate with her that should turn her on and then wait and go down on her untill you are ready again. Now after all that I feel like jumping on my fella but he is asleep and not well so I hope that helped a little at least as Im going to have to have a very cold shower now thanks mate WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, polarkite +, writes (8 February 2008):
 There are a few techniques you can use so that your female partner comes once or multiple times, notably before you do.
1. The Masters-Johnson method.
This only works with the woman on top. Basically, you have to tell her when you are getting excited, and she will stop, pull out and grab the coronol ridge area of the penis for about 3-4 seconds. This may cause you to lose some of your erection. Then the woman must wait about 30 seconds to re-insert the penis and begin thrusting. This method only works with couples who communicate really well, and seeing a sex therapist is recommended to get it right.
2. Ancient Chinese technique.
This one works in any position, is easier to do than M-J method, and is done by the man with no need to pull out.
Using the index and middle fingers of your left hand, press at the point between your scrotom and anus for a few seconds. At the same time, take a deep breath.
Other techniques include: 3. masturbating a day or so before you have sex, 4. the distraction method (thinking about number theory or something sufficiently complex to distract you from the sex), and 5. giving oral pleasure to give the woman an orgasm before having intercourse.
Also just mentally, it's good to free yourself from the idea of even having to come when you have sex. For example, in Taoist sex practices, it is thought that the man should not always come as this weakens him.
Here's an artice that elucidates these Taoist practices and thoughts on sex:
http://www.hps-online.com/tsy1.htm
Hope this helps!
*Techniques 1 and 2 were referenced from page 42 of "The Tao of Love and Sex" by Jolan Chang.
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