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writes: So i finally met my Man for first time....wow he's amazing, he brought me into kay jewlers and bought me a gold diamod ring, he did it when i wasnt looking, i love him but he won't tell me how much he spent or how many Ks it is. Anyway, we went out for a few hours he showed me around town, took me to the movies, ect....went back to his place made out and here i am on top of him next thing i know, I get poked.....he was sooo red after he knew what i knew, i laughed and said your fine. Now see, i've never been in this type of situation and didn't know what the hell to do, so i was wondering if anyone wanted to help me, just in case it happens again. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Depends how they feel about each other but typically feelings like this are short and passionate. Things that happen gradually are the ones that'll last a life time.
Hold back and having a baby for a lil while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Hi babes, I'm also a little concerned because things are moving so very fast. You meet him in July, your already having sex, now he starts talking about a baby, and you and him are thinking about moving in together. Babes, it's only been a month, hell less than a month. What's the hurry, things seem to be moving so very fast....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): I can see them Just2love, I've been following yours and Vincent's story..... What's happened now, have you and him worked it out with the mum?
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reader, littlesuziepie  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Ok. I was right. Internet internet internet. Don't meet guys online. Holy cow! Do you know how dangerous that is? Well. You are lucky you didn't get introduced to his little friend that showed up while you were on top of him. I guess you can sleep easy knowing he probably 50 percent chance he won't rape and kill you.
I could be wrong but hey. Let's get on to another subject.
His sisters kid. Huh. Sure its not his wife that's away and its his son? You will find out if the kid is awake when you get there. If he is 7 then he will probably slip up if the guy told him to call him uncle. And if he has his own bedroom there you know for sure.
Sorry to be so skeptical but haven't you seen the news. Read the paper. Or watched A&É its all over the place. The internet is deceiving and a preditors play ground. Please be careful. For god sakes be careful. Try meeting in public places for a long time. Not on his lap in his home. Scary! I would be careful.
And the ring. Probably not real. Who knows you should get it checked out then give it back. He absolutly gave that to you to make you feel as though you owe him something. Then he wants to act like he doesn't care if you do it or not. Just more to make you think oh what the hell he seems so nice. Ill give it to him. Don't be dumb. The chase is what keeps a man not hello nice to meet you and can I show you my labia! Ewww. That's sluty sorry. Your probably a really nice girl and very impressionable. Don't be caught doing something you will regret when you later realize the world will eat you up if you let it.
Good luck and I will pray for your safety. Really. I hate to know something bad happened to some young woman. So innocent.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 You should take your ring to a jewellers for valuation...it may prove to be glass or diamond-imitation. I don't mean to be horrible but it sounds like he bought you a gift to make you feel grateful and like you owed him something. It seems a bit much to buy someone a diamond on a first date!
Now I could just be cynical in my old age but that is just how I see it. As for the other problem, it is hardly surprising he had an erection with your jumping all over him...it is normal. Laughing it off is probably the best strategy!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 July 2008):
I think you are saying he got an erection....
Well what did you expect? He's come to you and bought you a huge diamond ring and you are on top of him.... of course he is going to want sex.
What to do is up to you. If you want sex with him then put your hand on it and start from there. If you don't want sex with him then what the hell are you doing on top of him? Let alone accepting rings?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Krissykins +, writes (30 July 2008):
it happens, just don't make a big deal out of it. Its a perfectly natural body funtion. Laugh about it, talk about it, ignore it ... your choice. But this is your husband to be, so it may be best to deal with embarassing issues now rather than let them fester as you are gonna be wedded thus need to feel comfortable with each other even in embarassing moments. Its what love is all about i think.PS, not sure about the engagement now as i saw ring and hear wedding bells. Still, regardless of wedding or no wedding, its best to try to over come the embarssingness of it.
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reader, °Ale°  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 See.. I don't know what to get out of your post. First I thought you were in it for all the wrong reasons when you mentioned the ring situation, yes its awfully lovely that he got you a ring, but why oh why are you so preoccupied with the prize? I mean, its not like we are talking Tiffany's here ;) kidding..
Then lets move on to the wonderful time you two had. How sweet.. did you meet online or on a blind date? What did you mean by "I finally met my man" ? and the last thing, the one I assume is your issue.. you were on top& he got excited? Hmm.. what are you doing squeezing lemons when you're not planning on drinking lemonade? Unless you know what to do in those cases, I suggest that you don't get on top :)
Ale.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (30 July 2008):
I need to ask a few questions. Did you just meet him? It sounds like maybe you met him from the internet and went to see him for the first time. Is that it?
I would be very cautious if you just met him and he bought you a diamond ring. Answer those please and ill have some answers for you.
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