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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little more than 2 years. We've been living together in a new city since last summer, and I've had to sacrifice things to make it happen.We started out as just friends for 3 years before we decided to move forward. In the beginning it was clear she had issues trusting (she's been hurt in the past) and it put a big strain on our relationship. I try to do the right thing and show her that she has nothing to worry about and allow her to drop her guard over time. She wanted phone numbers deleted, a story of where I had been, what females were there, etc etc etc. And if I didn't paint a clear enough picture that could stand scrutiny of a hot shot lawyer, I was guilty.I on the other hand may have given her more trust than she deserves. She has a promiscuous history from her college days. I'm not the jealous type but I do keep my eyes open. I've found her doing things she wouldn't tolerate from me at all. She's had conversations with a few gentlemen from her past (again i have no problem with it). But I do have a problem with the content, that was as sexual as "I wanna rub on that body" or "would you be interested in a threesome?" and many more conversations of which I have evidence! If I get a happy birthday text from an innocent female, all hell would break loose. There would be an hour long conversation and explanation of who she was etc etc.So I think this type thing deserves some conversationI've been bottling this type of thing up for so long(1yr).Is it worth it at all to have these talks? Im willing to take whatever comes out of it, whether good or bad (improves relationship or breakup)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I really appreciate your time, knowledge and perspective on the subject. I haven't shared this info with anyone, and I should probably share more. I cut this post short becaus i didnt want to overload with too much ingotmation. Thanks again!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 January 2013):
He'll yes its time for this talk. I have to say that you sound a little too level headed for this kind of woman.
Part of her inappropriate conversations stem from her trust issues. She probably thinks it's okay because you're doing it too.
You need to tell her that things are going change or you're done with her. For two years you've been on parole when you never even committed a misdameanor. At the same time she's been living like a corrupt politician; saying one thing and expecting a lot from other people when she's the one committing crimes.
Tell her you now have a zero tolerance policy for her talking with guys that way and for her treating you like you're cheating. If she doesn't like it you have no problem with that, and show her the door.
If you try reasoning with her you're waisting your time; I'm sure you've said it all before. If she was reasonable you wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. Do what I said and you may actually enjoy being with her again. Or you'll break up and find someone who has a little less issues. It's a win-win.
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reader, Ciaraj12 +, writes (18 January 2013):
This is coming from a girl...She is not worth your time. She is so jealous when it comes to you because she is out there doing exactly what she doesn't want you to do. Trust me, a guy that is willing to do everything that you did by meeting all her demands really can do so much better than a girl with trust and cheating issues.
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