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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Basically, I have been with my new boyfriend for 2 months now, and everything is going well between us. There is just one problem that we do have..and well its been on my mind for a little while. Sex between us is normally good, but tbh, its incredibably arkward and I am starting to think he isn't that into me when it comes to sex. I am rather self concious, I haven't been like this with previous boyfriends, but with him I just am. I've tryed to improved my self esteem since we started having sex so I don't seem so shy, I am getting there but sex is still very arkward. The thing that makes me think he really isn't into me or doesn't like sex between us is because he doesn't finish anymore, its really furstrating because it makes me feel bad, I give him foreplay before and after to help him get along, sometimes he gets close, he even tries himself but these days he just doesn't cum, it makes me wonder am I really bad? Or loose or something? Hes only one year older than me, and as i'm still in my teens I don't know what the problem is. He used to finish when it was the first few weeks of us, and now he doesn't and hasn't for over a month. I've asked him, and he just says he lasts really long with me, and aparently he likes to hold himself back so I finish, but I know that isn't always the case, as most times we try and he just can't, not to mention sometimes I feel he is slightly self concious about his weight, and I know hes a bit self concious about his penis size, even though its normal, and maybe that could be whats doing it? Because hes nervous too. Also, at the beginging of us he would go on and ask me to let him perform oral sex on me, but because I shyed away, he doesn't even ask me anymore, is maybe the reason why he doesn't finish or whatever is because i'm too shy? Help :( p.s He also had no problem with finishing with some of his previous girlfriends, so am I doing something wrong?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 February 2013):
 His inability to orgasm is not a reflection on you.
I think it could be two issues
1. what are you using for birth control... perhaps he is concerned about you getting pregnant
2. how often is he masturbating and how close to the times you have intercourse.... that also could be part of the issue.
SEX is not always about orgasms... the only thing a male orgasm is needed is for procreation... he may be very satisfied with you and your sex life without orgasms.
If he says he is... believe him.
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