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writes: I have been seeing my boyfriend of 2 months, a lot lately. Over these 2 months we have learned a lot from each other. I have slowly grown to really like him and i enjoy every minute of his company. He is what i consider my first serious boyfriend. We have not had sex, and i am still a virgin. I consider myself a good girlfriend tho. I practice playing baseball with him, we go to parties together on the weekends, i come over for dinner, and we even go to the gym together! Overall, i spend lots of quality time with him and we are constatly having fun. My boyfriend asked me a serious question today. He told me that his ex- girlfriend has been calling him a lot lately to hang out. He has not seen her or talked to her since the two of us have been together. Now, all of a sudden he would like to see her. I appreciate the fact that he asked for my permission, but in a way the idea of him hanging out with his ex sketches me out.I do know that him and her had sexual relations, but he told me that she obviously would not come over his house. He asked if i would mind if the 2 of them went out to grab some coffee. This way they could both catch up on things. He reasurred me that he no longer likes her in that way, and that they were friends long before they even dated. I know that it is hard to completly cut someone like her out of his life, but i feel like it is not fair for me to get in the way of their "friendship." She was the one who broke up with him tho, and i feel as if he will always have some feelings for her.Should i let them hang out together? I wouldn't mind coming along with them, but, maybe i should let them have their 'alone' time? I'm down to earth and friendly, maybe i should try to be freinds with her as well?I try my best to be understanding, but i have never been in this situation. I know that the key to having a good relationship is trust. Should i allow them to see each other? I already told him that i wouldn't have a problem with it, but deep down inside it does sorta bother me!! What would you do if you were in a situation like mine?
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (15 April 2008):
angelbbabe7490 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all so much!! i think he asked me just to see what i would think about the whole situation. of course i told him that it would be fine, but he still has not made the plans to actually go out with his ex yet. im sure he would rather keep the relationship with me than to continue one with his ex but he does still want to be friendly with her. thank you all again because all of your advice truly does help :-)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Maybe ,once or twice but anything more than that is a red flag.
She maybe a wolf in sheep's clothing.
If you meet accidentally and talk , then it is OK.
But if you go and have a cup of coffee, that does not sound good.
There could be some ulterior motive involved.
Keep your guard up.
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reader, lah mouw  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Well you are right, it's not fair for you to get in between they're friendship. Of course you feel uncomfortable! It's an ex we're talking about! But if he says they're just going to go out for coffee then you shouldn't have much to worry about, although you shouldn't tag along she may feel like you're interfering (bad first impression) and he may feel like you don't truly trust him enough to set him off on his own with someone he was once involved with. You should let him go ahead and do it, just respect the fact that he wants to catch up, that's all. But, also tell him how the whole situation is making you feel. It may make you feel better about letting him see her
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