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writes:Just met this guy online..... we met briefly and we kissed.Now he wants to meet me again, but is sending me texts saying he wants to make love to me. I'm not happy with moving so fast, and have told him this.... but he feels we have a great connection so why wait to have sex.I'm getting divorced, am 45, and he's 50. Not sure if I'm being a prude, having been in my last relationship for 25 years!
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 He wants to fulfil his fantansy... sex.. you met him online... right? its probably wat he does... use your head..
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 I'm with Minelisse here on this one; he could be a player.
If he doesn't listen to you or understand that you don't want to have sex this soon in the relationship, then he is not a man who respects boundaries or other's feelings.
Who cares if HE feels you have a great connection, so why wait? YOU care, and should tell him that you are not going to move this fast, period.
His response to this will tell you what he's really after, a real relationship built on mutual trust and getting to know each other, or just a quick sh*g, with a minimum of effort and fuss. If you want to move slowly, he should respect that.
Don't do anything you don't want to do, because you're vulnerable right now due to the divorce. Be strong, be confident, be yourself. You're not a prude, you are prudent. BIG difference.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 Careful, he seems like a player! The Internet world is very sexually open and that is not bad, but don't let anyone rush you into anything.
In real life as well as in the Internet dating scene don't do anything you just don't really want to do!
Good look and be careful!
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