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writes:Opinions needed from young people.I dated a guy long distance whilst he was at uni - he cheated kissing other girls at clubs (thats as far as he told me it went). So we split up in his third year.He graduated and came home so we decided to give it a go but knowing he would have to work hard to earn trust back. So he got his first job to do with his degree not long after finishing uni, but just yesterday (6 months after starting his new job) told me he has handed in his notice cos its too difficult, he doesnt enjoy being in an office all day and it's too stressful. So I thought well ok pity and he'll have to look for something else.Next thing he said was now he was free he'd like to travel for 8 weeks and he would go for longer only he wants to be with me. I'm mixed up wondering do I let him go, will he be faithful and if he wanted me as much as he says he does would he even go in the first place? He is 24. Thanks for your opinions.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Your boyfriend, in my opinion is not nearly ready to settle down. He wants to spread his wings and see a bit of the world. I feel your relationship is hanging by a thread here and it might be a good idea to break things off with him and remain friends before he goes. You won't stop him going, he seems to have made his mind up about that so when you said "do I let him go" I take it you meant as in breaking up with him?
Don't pressure him in any way, let him go this trip with good memories of you and not a fight! This trip will be an important one though. He might miss you like hell while he's away and be desperate to get home to you or he might not think twice about you and love every minute of it. Only time will tell...
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (16 March 2007):
 Seems to be that your guy went through a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' back at uni. And if he hasn't changed in that time all that much, then most likely he wont stay faithful (unless he's going to those nature places where there aren't that many people around, in which case the chance to stray might not come up)The unfortunate thing is, you cant stop him from going. Or if you did, chances are he'd resent you for it.You never explained it but did he manage to earn back your trust? Cos if he did prove to you that he can stay loyal, then you might not have too much to worry about. How long has it been since you broke up? Cos if its not been too long, then I dont think he's changed too much from his days in uni. Personally, I think it was a mistake for you to take him back the first time without sorting out the issues between you first (unless you did manage that?) but if another chance to stray came up for him (and after 8 weeks of not seeing you) you really have to wonder, will his old ways resurface? I think they would
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