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*eonsourworms
writes:so about four months ago i met the absolutely perfect guy. perfect! and two weeks later he dumps me for some other chick that ended up being such an absolute female dog. anyways i flipped out on him and threw a fit cause before we even started dating and got together i made the mistake of sleeping with him. for the first time i actually felt special in his arms. i fell so far in love with him at that moment. which why after those two weeks i got so upset. we ended up not talking for about two months and one day i saw his number in my phone. i texted him to see if he wanted to hang out and it turned into a once again daily thing. two days ago i went with a few of my friends to his apartment and partied. miller, hookah, whole nine yards. so turns out my friends had to leave, leaving me there alone with my gorgeous ex boyfriend, drunk. being my ex he knew every spot and hes just as bad as me when it comes to hornyness and drinking. one thing led to another and before i know it, I'm upstairs in his bed. we lay there leading on the foreplay and i pull away saying i couldn't stand us to do this. he says he wants to be friends with benefits, says he doesn't want a relationship. it would hurt me to not be able to call him mine but i would love to get laid by him whenever i want. and thus here is my question, should i allow what we both want but would hurt me in the end? i mean i know i can do it without being emotionally attached.....but should i is the question.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 December 2008):
 You dated for only 2 weeks, that hardly makes him your "EX". The fact that you jumped into the sack with him so quickly makes me think that he thinks of you as easy and has no real respect for you. The whole "friends with benefits" is a bunch of crap and someone always gets hurt, in this case it will be you, count on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): NO YOU SHOULDNT! IT RARELY WORKS OUT THE WAY YOU FEEL
You cannot handle it and will not handle it so don't be fooled again! You say 'i mean i know i can do it without being emotionally attached.....but should i is the question.'you also said 'and i pull away saying i couldn't stand us to do this.' Why would you pull away if you could handle it.
This is wrong and you know it is otherwise you wouldnt be on here. Dont let him treat you like this and get some self respect. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): You are alreayd emotionally involved with this guy and have strong feelings for him. Having sex with him is not going to help you as you will develop stronger feelings and will end up heartbroken and feeling used . Don't degrade yourself now. Have self respect and be firm with him. He will at least be able to admire and respect you for not giving in to him for the sake of having sex.
No matter how tempting, don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): if you go for it youl probably feel good- short-term good
real REAL short-term good.. but youll probably feel real bad that your not truly his and all that.. but feel long term bad because your not respecting yourself and he doesnt respect you or really love you..
if you dont youl probably feel bad short term- but long term youll feel good that you respected yourself nd he might come to respect you and actually ask you to be his proper gf
i say dont for for it
its just one opinion though..
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reader, cockainis +, writes (28 November 2008):
 You can use him as much as he can use you. IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT. Thinking otherwise is sexist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Don't do it, he is a an A hole jerk. When women allow men to treat them as a "friend with benefits" it only benefits THE MAN. We woman are part of the problem why men treat woman so poorly.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (28 November 2008):
ps. It might be fun for a while, but eventually it will just feel empty... because it won't be what you really want and you won't be being true to yourself accepting it.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (28 November 2008):
It's doubtful this guy will ever take you seriously as a girlfriend. You slept with him too soon and he doesn't respect you. You have feelings for him and as you said... you will get hurt. Sounds like you have to choose between letting go of your feelings and letting go of the guy. Which will make you respect yourself more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): I think it's a bad idea. You said yourself that you could not stand the situation and that you had developed feelings for him. I think this could end badly for you and you don't need that kind of drama in your life. I think you should move on and find a healthy relationship and not just a booty call one. Take care and respect yourself
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