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writes:Hey, okay this has proved to be tricky for me.I met this lad and it all started off as innocent fun, you know, talking, texting etc. Well I have been telling him the truth, except for one wee white lie... I live in Ireland and he lives in England, and the wee white lie that I told is that he thinks I'm 2 years older than I really am. I only said that I was older, because to be honest, I was having fun and didn't think anything too serious would come out of it. Well we got talking, and now we talk every night and day either by msn or texting. He has told me that he really likes me and I have to admit, I really like him too. Everything was going great, until I felt like he was playing me. You know when a lad talks to you calling you beautiful etc, and it makes you feel so special well, I then found out that he was talking like that to other girls that he just met. Suddenly all the things he was saying had lost all meaning, and I was really annoyed with him. I confronted him with this problem and he couldn't have been nicer, he felt really bad and guilty and he said he didn't want to lose me. I then forgave him and we are both smitten about each other again and to make sure that I know how serious he is about me, has has sent me chocolates. What a nice lad! He's funny, sensitive, caring and he is the only lad that treats me right and I love him to bits. However, this wee white lie that I told from the beginning is starting to ring in my ear and I'm feeling guilty because I believe he deserves to know the truth. I really don't want to hurt him but to be honest there could be things hes not telling me, but I feel like he has been honest with me all the time. I need help... do you guys think I should not mention my real age because it doesn't really matter and it is only like 2 year between us and it's not like we are going to meet up? I know what the genuine thing to do is but it just seems irrelevant. I need help as my conscience is eating me alive... Please help quick!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2011): Well, he lied to you in a way, a lie of omission. He came clean about the other girls, so I think it's only fair that you come clean about your age. If you really think it's going to get serious, that's the only option because he'll likely find out anyway. If you recognize that there's a good chance that, as an internet relationship, you two could fizzle out pretty quick, don't worry about it.
If you do decide to come clean, I would suggest approaching the subject with something along the lines of "what would you do if you found out...?"
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 Hello,
Is he 18 or older? I take it you are 17 or younger.
I would be very careful. EVERYONE lies on the Internet and he is no different. You don't know him...only what he tells you. I take it you already gave him your address as he sent you chocolates. Just be very careful.
Do you ever plan to meet? Have you seen each other on web cam? Did you ever send him pictures or videos that are private that no else should see?
I'm sure he sounds sweet but you never know over the Internet. As for telling him your age...that's up to you. I'm sure he is still a player and talks to any other girl the same as you. He never seen you before yet he changes his player behavior? Sounds like he is lying.
Be careful, I wouldn't give him anymore information about you.
Good Luck.
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