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female
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30-35,
*ikkij
writes:I've been with my bf for two months now and we recently had sex for the first time...I didn't get any pleasure from it...nor do I ever get anything out of any sexual thing we do. I know there is nothing wrong with me, because I am very capable of having an orgasm, but he never tries to please me, and when he does he always stops half way to get me to do something for him...He says he wants to please me and make me feel as good as he does, but this never happens...I'm not trying to be selfish, but I just feel that sex was made for both people to enjoy it, not just one.
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reader, nikkij +, writes (29 January 2008):
nikkij is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for everything...I'll see how it goes for the next few weeks and if its the same, then that's it...
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Guess you are both still rather inexperienced. You are both still very young, but yes, it often takes a woman to teach a young man how to please and what the "playground" is all about.
You indicate you know a bit about the playground. You possibly want your guy to get oral and learn how to get down there and pleasure you?
Well, some guys will and will want to learn - some will remain convinced that the pleasure is supposed to be all their own and you just get what you can out of it.
A little more time should tell you where this guy's head is going - if not down, move on girl.
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reader, nikkij +, writes (27 January 2008):
nikkij is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's not a virgin, but he had sex once before he met me, so he doesn't really know his way around just yet. The thing is I try to show him, but I think he just gets frustrated...he's only selfish in bed...not with anything else..I don't know...should I just try harder to show him how to pleasure me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): He either doesn't care or he doesn't quite know his way around the playground yet. Or he's a fool. If he doesn't care or he's a fool, move on. If he doesn't know his way around the playground, well...show him around.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 January 2008):
You're not the selfish one here. Think about it. He doesn't care.
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