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writes:I dated a guy for a year and then we broke up. We've tried remaining friends, and it has been on and off. After 2 months of not talking, he called me b/c of some problems he ran into with his gf. We started talking and hanging again...which I liked b/c I have never gotten over him. However, all that has slowed to a crawl. Now he only text and occasionally emails. I asked him what was up and he said he is nervous around me. I don't know what that means and I don't know how to fix it. He won't add me to MSN.....is their any way that we can move past this?I am pretty sure he is seeing at least one person casually, and I don't want to be his rebound. Nor do I want to be with him if he is sleeping around. What can I do to make him more comfortable with me? How can we start hanging out again? Thanks
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reader, romany  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I'm really sorry to say this, and I dont want to upset you, but I honestly dont think he wants to be comfortable around you, it sounds like you've given him every opportunity to hang with you and he isn't responding.
I think he has made the decision that he doesn't want to be with you romantically again, and he's nervous as he knows when he see's you, he weakens, this then leads to him beating himself up, feeling guilty for stringing you along and being regretful for some time after, I say this, as I've been in your situation, with a long time ago ex, when we ended i vowed never to go back there, but i did, just like you and he has, but still I was determined never to get back with him romantically, he hurt me that once/twice/thirty times, and altho he said he understood and was sorry, he still hurt me and altho i forgave him, i can't forget, and i'll never give him to chance to do it again, but when he is around, I weaken, and I dont like it, and therefore, altho we talk and text, I'll never meet up with him. Because despite caring about him, fancying him and feeling he is ying to my yang during sexy times, there is no way in this life I'd get back with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): I think he is avoiding you because he is seeing someone else. I think that is why he is nervous around you. Why take sloppy seconds when you can have a man that makes you his number one priority.. I would back off again and look elsewhere for now. Best of luck!
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