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writes:I met a guy about a month ago and we were txting eachother back and forth for a while. At first I was just viewing him as a guy I could have a few drinks with - ntohing special, but then it emerged we had loads in common and he ended up inviting me out on a "date". We went for coffee and spent the whole time flirting with eachother, laughing and really getting on with eachother. I've never felt so relaxed with anyone before in my whole life. We just clicked. We then went on to get a drink at a bar and continued to have a laugh. However towards the end of the "date" it emerged he was seeing someone but that it wasn't serious. I was a little heartbroken to say the least. He walked with me for a while and when it came time to say godbye he just pulled me in to a really big hug and kissed my cheek. He also said he really wanted to meet up again sometime.I sent him a text message a few days later just saying I had a great time and he responded saying likewise and again saying lets do it again soon. But since then we've hardly spoken. I've sent him one or two messages asking how he is, what hes up to and he's always really busy (he genuinally is busy - he's not making it up - he has a very busy job), and I just keep feeling as if hes not interested anymore. I haven't spoken to him in two weeks now. What went wrong? I really liked this guy. What should I do next?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 An open-ended - "I'll call you", "Let's meet up again sometime" or "Let's do it again soon" is just something that a guy says in parting. Whether or not HE calls you the next day is the BIG THING. If he hasn't made the effort to pick up the phone himself, he's not interested. I don't think that guys get how mean it sounds - or that we believe them and wait to hear from them - they just say it to let themselves off-the-hook and leave. I'm afraid that he had no intention of calling. I have a feeling that when a guy pulls you in and kisses you cheek instead of going for the lips, that's kind of like kissing your sister, so that's probably not a good sign that he's into you either. Sorry that I didn't sugar-coat that, but it doesn't sound like mutual sexual attraction. The female equivalent is hugging a guy and patting him on the back - "You're *pat* Not *pat* Getting *pat* Any" is how it's been described.
I'm sorry Sweetie to tell you this because I know that you liked him and that you are hurting. If I were you, I would stop calling him because he hasn't reciprocated by calling you at all. He just not that into you (but there is someone else out there that is!). You weren't mistaken, you didn't do anything wrong, you DID get mixed signals from him BUT at this point, I'd just walk away with my dignity intact and chalk it up to experience. I'm QUITE sure that your "beshert" (fated one) is still out there waiting for you. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Nothing was wrong with you hunny, He said he was in a relationship but it wasnt serious. But by the looks of things that may have been a lie, His relationship may have been having troubles at that time and now it may have been sorted out and Im sure to his g/f the relationship was very serious, This is why I think (I cant be 110% sure) That he has not got intouch and is always busy, I would carry on with your life hunny I no its hard you liked him, Put this down to a learning experience and go forward sweetheart. Im sorry things went wrong I hope things get better very soon for you. WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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