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anonymous
writes:I am talking to my ex again after months of bitterness towards each other. We broke up a yr ago. To move on from the heartbreak, I deleted him in EVERY online connection I have with him..chat, fb etc. It was effective because I have never memorized his email address as he had a complicated one that is hard to memorize. And after my last email, i deleted all sent and received emails from him so I wont be tempted to email him again.Anyway, we began talking again starting 2 weeks ago and right now he is in a very low stage of his life as he was terminated from work. He asked me to help him, to contact him in case I know of any vacancy.Now, my sister sent me a list of email addresses of companies and I wanted to send it to him too. I told him I'd forward it to him. It was then that I realized that I don't have his email address. I tried twice but it bounced back. But I was shy to ask him so I wasn't able to send the list. Now, days after our conversation, he reminds me to send the list of emails. So I told him I don't have his email address anymore and if he could send it...that I promise I will email him after work.He never replied again. What's up with him? Did i say something wrong? I want to remind him of his email address but I feel like...why should I? He's the one who needs my help. And why do you think he didn't reply?Opinions pls?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 It doesnt matter what reasons he has to not reply.. yet. He might be replying later, that he got busy, or he found a job on his own, or whatever. It is of no relevance why. What you need to do is try and not focus so hard on this. You are right, he asked YOU for help, so HE needs to contact you. You did nothing wrong with asking for his e-mail again, and it is understandable that you deleted his e-mail. Just sit it out and wait, and if he never contacts you then just forget about it. No need to wonder why he didn't contact you, it could be for whatever reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): Hi there, you are a nice girl. Some guy will be happy to have you for sure. You have already decided to help him, so leave out the ego, and remind him to give his email id and tell him that you don't have it with you and it was a complex one. If he feels bad that you deleted his id, and won't take your help, then its his loss. You are doing well. Keep it up!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 May 2010):
Leave him to contact you. You'd broken up, and deleted everything to get over him. His life is his problem. If he is that desperate for help, he will get back to you. Other than that, leave him to it.
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