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writes: I am confused!My fiance and i have been together for 2 yearsi got pregnant a year in to our relationship i was excited about it,however when i told him he was not so happy ,he wanted to get married before we had any children.He told me it wouldnt be the right time for a baby.I agreed with him for a while ,but when i thought about how i wanted a baby for so long i told him i was not going to have an abortion,we would have to deal with it.He eventually convinced me to do it i did.3 months later later he told me he got another girl pregnant it was an accident the condom broke.my world crumbled when he told me,the girl is going to keep the baby he doesn't have any say about that.When we first started dating i know he had another baby mama i had to deal with and i did she was there before i came in the picture.I dont think i can deal with another one.He wants me to stay and work things out with him and even still get married.I wanted my baby so much, now i got nothin.Help me make the RIGHT decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): i would have to agree with the two comments before me first off he cheated on you and its ok for her to keep the baby how come its not ok for you to have kepted the baby if i were you i would do some soul searching for you and also think long and hard will he do it again and what if you do get pregnant again if i was you i would think about it all and what he has done to you i hope it all works out good luck
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 DUMP HIM
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 I'd definitely put this relationship on hold. His cheating on you must be addressed first. If you think you can ever forgive him for it then that's one thing, however you won't ever be able to forget about it because his child will be needing financial support at the very least. If you get married that will be something that will affect your finances as well. If he wants to be a real father to his child then that will affect your time together as well. He is already going to be supporting two children, will he be able or willing to support one of your own? I guess it boils down to whether you think your best interests are going to be taken care of in a relationship with him or whether you should move on and find someone with less baggage at the get go. Think hard and good luck.
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