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writes:Okay, so i'm 15, and friends with 2 guys on my bus. The one guy will be called R, the other M. R is...for lack of a better word, a creep. He latches on to girls he likes, and acts really creepily around them. He begs them to go out with him when they reject him. He says really innapropriate things and does very creepy things to girls. He can be really mean too, saying that I act like a good girl but really I'm a slut and that out of me and another girl i'm more likely to be a hermaphradite. I could go into detail, but it would be too long. Other times, he can be really funny and nice. Anyway, i recently found out by M and another girl on our bus that he likes me. And its been going on for quite some time. M and him are pretty good friends, and M is amazing. He's nice and sweet and funny and he's just a great guy. We are pretty good friends and I like him. I don't know if he likes me, he can be really shy. My friends say we would look cute together and he might like me. Okay, so a few days ago R wasn't on the bus. It was just me, M, and another girl, A. We started talking about R and how weird he can be and M started telling me things R said about me. Like me being a whore and a hermaphrodite and other bad things. Immediately his face turned red and he was like don't tell R! But kept saying bad things.Later, i got a call from A saying that M had told her it was really serious we didn't say anything to R, because R likes me. I know this is probably hard to make sense out of, but what should I do? I don't like R in the slightest. Not even as a friend anymore. Do you think M could have told us all that bad stuff about R to ruin R's chances with me? I mean, if your friend likes a girl wouldn't you try and make them look good? How can I show R I don't like him back? Thanks :)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 May 2012):
 Just because R likes you doesn't mean you have ANY obligations to like him back.
Though, I wouldn't go after M either. If he passes on what his friend said to you, who knows what he will tell his friend. I don't think he did it to ruin R chances. I think he did it because he didn't like R that day or because he really doesn't like R that much in general.
I would avoid talking to R as much as possible. School is almost out anyways.
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Keep your distance from R as he is not worthy of even a one second glance. Just because a guy indicates or seems to like you does not mean you have to act on it.
There is no Law in this Universe that says you have to accept the one who claims to like you and ignore the one you like.
You choose the one you like.
You choose the one you feel most comfortable with
You choose the one who treats you the most respectfully.
People may not always like you but if they do not show you Respect then you have nothing going for you in the relationship.
R behaves immaturely around girls and behaves inappropriately. And in your words, "R is ...for lack of a better word, a creep. He latches on to girls he likes, and acts really creepily around them."
He may not be acceptable as a boyfriend for another ten years.
His friend M though is not a loyal friend to R. And tells tales that were told to him in private. But maybe M is getting fed up with R. If the two boys really are friends then they will be at logger-heads with each other, which ever boy you choose. Both boys like you for different reasons. Jealousy will result which ever boy you choose to go out with.
I think R sounds quite nasty and disgusting. He is definately not ready for a girl friend.
And I do not think for a moment that M would make up things about R. To do so would be very silly as it would drive a wedge between M and R if M lied and if R then found about the lies. From all you have said about R I think it very likely that M was telling you the truth - and perhaps holding back on even nastier comments made by R. I do hope that M distances himself from R as R sounds quite odd.
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