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writes:Hey, This is my first question. Around 9 months ago i met a guy, and since then we've been getting on soo well and i seriously think i could love him. The only problem is, im only 16 and he was what i thought to be 20. I only found out this evening that he's actually 29. I don't know what to do or feel as i feel like the last 9 months has all been a big lie and i can't trust him. When i confronted him he said he lied because he liked me and wanted to get to know me, but i just feel stupid and don't know where to take things from now.Any suggestions? xxxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): This guy has a problem and you should dump him. I know it might hurt, but any guy who lies about something that important is not the right guy for a relationship. He is mentally immature and sex with a minor is considered statutory rape in the United States, so by American standards he is basically an immature criminal and a liar. You are only 16 and you have your whole life ahead of you, so don't waste months or years with a loser like that!
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reader, AbbyTomko +, writes (23 June 2007):
 well he lied but because he liked you i think you should go for it and be happy all the best hun xx
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reader, superfly  +, writes (23 June 2007):
Fact: You liked him in the beginning without knowing his age.
Also, besides what many would say, You are the first to realized and agree, AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER!!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (23 June 2007):
 I would drop this man and quickly. The fact that he's interested in a 16 year old girl is a little odd but the fact he LIED and told you he was 20! I find that quite gross. The fact you now don't trust him either is a sure sign that this will not go smoothly.
Good luck
xxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Bigcatlover07 +, writes (23 June 2007):
 The fact that he lied to you in the first place is enough, isn't a relationship meant to be based on trust and if he's lying to you straight away you don't know what else he might be lying about.
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reader, myp +, writes (23 June 2007):
 get rid of him quick. I smell pedophile. Any man damn near thirty trying to get with a 16 yr old is not a man, he is officially a sick b*stard. My apologies for the language but theres really no other title for a person like that.-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): your age says you're 13-15. In any case, 13 or 16 a man who is 29, practically 30, is way too old for you. And the fact that he lied to you prooves that he just said he was younger to get in your pants. This man does not respect you. I find it disturbing that you're still with this person. You should be dating someone no older than 18. A guy that age who is dating a young girl of 16 is mentally immature, and probably can't get a woman around his own age because he has nothing to offer someone his own age. Think about it...does he have a house, a god job, could he offer a woman security? If the answers are no, then that is why he's dating you because someone so young is still dependant on thier parents and he knows he doesn't have to offer you anything. All he wants you for is sex. Trust me.
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