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He lied to me about his age, now I can't trust him.

Q.   Hey, This is my first question. Around 9 months ago i met a guy, and since then we've been getting on soo well and i seriously think i could love him. The only problem is, im only 16 and he was what i thought to be 20. I only found out this ...

A.   23 June 2007: Fact: You liked him in the beginning without knowing his age. Also, besides what many would say, You are the first to realized and agree, AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER!!... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend who adores me but I can't forget about my ex

Q.   I can't get over my x boyfriend! I am don't understand my own feelings! This is a very very long story but ill try and shortern it. Ill start at thr beginning. I met my x boyfriend when i was 15 we where togther in total just under 7 years so...

A.   23 June 2007: Why you can't get over your x, is b/c you HAVE NO IDEA OF THE MEANING OF AN 'X'!!! I X is just what it is......"EX, X, HISTORY, NO MORE FRIENDS, MOVING ON, NEW LIFE, NEW LOVE, NEW PERSPECTIVE, NEW IDEAS, NEW BREATH, NEW FUTURE, NEW OUTLOOK ... (read in full...)

I've been sleeping with an older man during a rough patch with my boyfriend

Q.   hey guys i need some advice! i'm totally head over heels in love with my boyfriend but we'r goin through a bit of a rough patch at the min...although i dont think he realises this!! he takes drugs when he's out with certain friends of his and he ...

A.   23 June 2007: What kind of drugs is he using?.....b/c it is important for advice is right for you. If he is using chemical drugs, LEAVE HIM! If he is using mari-wana....give him time, but mariwana, deteriorates the brain, making his judgement lackin... (read in full...)

After the death of my brother, I don't feel like I care about anything anymore. Please help me!

Q.   hello out there well i have a problem and i dont know what to do or if its normal or whats wrong with me wel lmy brother died a couple of months ago and for like the first few days i was said and now its like it didnt happen i dont even think about ...

A.   19 June 2007: You need to get your groove back babie....Your brother would be very sad to know you're depressing over something that we can't control but accept. However, your brother would be very happy, if he knew you accepted what happened and maintain... (read in full...)

I found out he cheated...because he gave me an STD!! Can I ever trust him again?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend nine years. Recently found out he has cheated. Only found out as we ended up with a std due to him playing away. He then went on trying to tell me we must of had it all this time. Got the truth in the end but i don't fe...

A.   19 June 2007: You need to spend more time with your family about life concerns than just being a family member. Family, if the are honest and care about you, can understand and would have the better answers of how to help you avoid this, prevent this, become a... (read in full...)

Could these be genital warts (or something else)?

Q.   Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...

A.   19 June 2007: Furthermore, you shouldn't be shaving down there, IT'S VERY DANGEROUS AND AMERICAN LIKE. USE BIKINI WAX!... (read in full...)

Could these be genital warts (or something else)?

Q.   Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...

A.   19 June 2007: You're so easy to fool and also, you're so gullible. Is there any physical way, that anyone on this planet can access if a MALE is virgin?....THE ANSWER IS NO! For a women, yes, b/c there exist skin over the upper part of the uterus, until it... (read in full...)

She has 3 nipples and it is freaking me out!

Q.   me and my girlfriend have just started going out and we recently slept together, but when she took her top off i could clearly see that she has three nipples, two on one breast. i have tried to ignor it, but it is really freaking me out and i dont ...

A.   19 June 2007: It's call polythelia. Try to understand how she copes with having an extra nipples. She probably was freaked out when she learned she has extra nipples as well. Naw, enough of the joking....I think what you can do is be honest with yourself, b... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my chubby face cheeks?

Q.   My body is average looking. I wouldn't consider myself skinny, but I look rather healthy. Is there any way of how I could lose fat on my cheeks? My face looks chubby, and whenever I start to walk my cheeks shakes. This makes me feel that I need to ...

A.   13 June 2007: Losing fat on cheeks, is very hard and only supported by starvation....Some men consider it a sign of good health......a round is often times supported by round bone structure...if that's the case, you probably will have difficult time trying to ... (read in full...)

He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...

A.   13 June 2007: Before you look for advice about a man beating you, do some soul searching, as to what can a woman learn from being beaten, and then come back. You didn't get a beaten, you got destroyed, broken, irrepairable, traumatized, and you wil... (read in full...)

I got my cousin pregnant - we're both 17 and don't know what to do! Help!

Q.   My cousin and i recently were both at a party. After the party she came back to my house to sleepover as both our parents were away for the night. As you can already guess one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together, the only problem ...

A.   13 June 2007: FAMILY BABIES ARE 99.99999% certain to be birth defect babies. Why? You can't cross similar DNA and expect uniqueness and differences. It's like super-imposing yourself on yourself, getting a flaw........ (read in full...)

Could these be genital warts (or something else)?

Q.   Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...

A.   13 June 2007: It doesn't matter if you used condoms or not with getting these infections. You can use a condom and still get HSV-2(genital herps) and HSV-1(oral herps) infections. Also, you can use a condom and still get genital warts lesions. Why?... (read in full...)

I get a discharge after being fingered....

Q.   Almost everytime my boyfriend fingers me there's a brownish discharge. The first time it happened we just assumed he broke my hymen because we just saw a little blood, but then I noticed the unsual discharge whenever I'd use the restroom. There was ...

A.   11 June 2007: It seems like you have a un-healed "vaginal-ulcer" that bleeds upon secretion of vaginal fluids when you're being stimulated or not.... Resolution: SEE A OBGYN OR FAMILY PHYSICIAN!!... (read in full...)

Can I tell from her poonani if she's sleeping with other men??

Q.   I am 25 years ols and very healthy.I am dating a female who is 35 years old and mother of two.I have sex with her twice a month.She is seperated fom her husband.Our sexual relationship is going fine.I am planning to settle with her.I sometimes feel ...

A.   11 June 2007: Your best indicator to know if she's cheating....IS YOUR GUT FEELING...IT'S NEVER WRONG ABOUT SOMETHING UNUSUAL. You may have a pattern of flirting or conversing intimately with a guy..which you may be picking up vibes for cheating... ... (read in full...)

Can I tell from her poonani if she's sleeping with other men??

Q.   I am 25 years ols and very healthy.I am dating a female who is 35 years old and mother of two.I have sex with her twice a month.She is seperated fom her husband.Our sexual relationship is going fine.I am planning to settle with her.I sometimes feel ...

A.   11 June 2007: Yes. Check her panties for the smell of semen. Have you ever smelled a load of mastubating semen?....Women can't produce that smell under no circumstances. Okay, assuming they had protected sex, the other indication would be a big change... (read in full...)

Had unprotected sex and he 'came' inside me! Will I get pregnant?

Q.   Ok I am 14 years old and i had unprotected sex with a guy that i been with for 9 months, he told me he came in me, i dont know if i might be pregnent but this happened like a week ago, will i be pregnent???...

A.   11 June 2007: If it happens again, you're probably be a 14 year old "mother" for sure!!... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant by putting it in and pulling it out once??

Q.   Can you get pregnant by putting it in and pulling it out once....

A.   11 June 2007: Read what Dr. Pete said.... A hard penis can always release sperm...... (read in full...)

I cheated and he's not sure he'll ever trust me again! How do I earn his trust back?

Q.   Help, Please!! I am trying to gain the trust back in a relationship. I was with a guy for a year. We were engaged and found out we are expecting a baby. But we are not together right now. This is where the problem comes in. I love him and want to ...

A.   11 June 2007: he can trust you, if you allow him to cheat on you once, with your help...then under those circumstances, maybe he can trust you again...... (read in full...)

I found out he cheated...because he gave me an STD!! Can I ever trust him again?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend nine years. Recently found out he has cheated. Only found out as we ended up with a std due to him playing away. He then went on trying to tell me we must of had it all this time. Got the truth in the end but i don't fe...

A.   11 June 2007: You're lucky this STD wasn't HIV......OR SYPHILLIS. If you continue with this guy, you could be dead at a very young age. My heart goes to you.... (read in full...)

He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...

A.   11 June 2007: He beat you?....if you stay, he's going to beat you somemore, and for some weird reason, women tend to stay with these men, when they even know it is wrong to do so.... not good!....leave while you can, don't ever resolve a beating man!... (read in full...)

How do I bring up the subject of my fiery girlfriend's smelly punani with her?

Q.   My girlfriend really smells-It really especially puts me off if I have to go down on her and she really smells awful. Sometimes the smell is so bad that I can smell it when she simply takes off her thong before even going down there. I think maybe ...

A.   11 June 2007: Next time, pretend to have sex by taking off her underwear. When you get her panties down, say to her, "Huney, do you smell that?"....then you touch her vagina to collect a finger sample and smell it in front of her and suggest her to do the same, ... (read in full...)

Have lots of wet discharge from my vagina.. ?

Q.   Ever so often I have this huge amount of discharge come out of my vagina. It'll soak my panties entirely and sometimes soak through to my pants as well. I don't know why it is doing this. I am not thinking about sex, I am not turned on. I'll be ...

A.   11 June 2007: This is not stress, this is systemic....SEE A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY!!... (read in full...)

How can I get my wife to feel more sexually attracted to me?

Q.   my wife has told me she does not feel sexualy attracted to me anymore how can we get over this?...

A.   11 June 2007: Take her to a dance club to see other women give you a lap dance....get her approval. I read somewhere, this re-stimulates loss sexual tensions. good luck.... (read in full...)

I think my husband cheated when he was on a business trip to Thailand six months ago!

Q.   I think my husband cheated when he was on a business trip to Thailand six months ago...he lost his sex drive years ago when he came back from thailand he wanted sex all the time which is very unusual but it only lasted for two months and now he has ...

A.   11 June 2007: A TON OF STD'S IN THAILAND....HAVE HIM CHECKED OUT FOR YOUR HEALTHS SAKE...... (read in full...)

My ex split with me to date another female-so I moved on to another guy. Now my ex wants me back! Any advice?

Q.   I have recently split from a 4 year relationship due to my partner thinking he wanted space but then i found out he was meeting another girl which he claims is all innocent. We split just before christmas and i started to get on with my life and i ...

A.   11 June 2007: Yes get back together...This happened to my friend and their husband...she got back together with him when she(who seeing someone else first) wanted to get back together when she learned he was seeing someone. They got back together and is happi... (read in full...)

Should I tell my wife that I had sex with my sister in law? She wouldn't handle it well! What do I do??

Q.   I have had feelings for my sister in law for five years and last week we had sex. Im very confused. We both agreed that it was a once off and it would never happen again. We are both married and very happy in our relationship but have been flirting ...

A.   11 June 2007: Don't pass this burden to your wife....You should accept this burden b/c you created it, and you should deal with it...not your wife!!... (read in full...)

Should I tell my wife that I had sex with my sister in law? She wouldn't handle it well! What do I do??

Q.   I have had feelings for my sister in law for five years and last week we had sex. Im very confused. We both agreed that it was a once off and it would never happen again. We are both married and very happy in our relationship but have been flirting ...

A.   11 June 2007: If you do, understand at the moment you decide to do this, consider your wife nolonger your wife.....and don't expect her to resolve your situation, b/c her sister stabbed her in the back, and a person like yourself had sex with her sister.... ... (read in full...)

Does anal sex hurt?

Q.   me and my boyfriend want to have anal sex does it hurt?...

A.   11 June 2007: Also, understand what sex does.....it creates friction...and if the 'hole' the penis is going into is not secreting fluids, inflammation will occur, following by painful tear lesions. However, the vagina and not the anal canal(the guts) doesn't no... (read in full...)

Does anal sex hurt?

Q.   me and my boyfriend want to have anal sex does it hurt?...

A.   11 June 2007: Anal sex is very very unhealthy for the recipient whose receiving it... You could easily damage your anal spinchter muscles-causing an anal prolapes syndrome, and infections are more possible in the anal canal than the vaginal canal, b/c the a... (read in full...)

Is this RAPE???

Q.   I dont know what to do about my boyfriend. A few nights ago when I came home from work, he asked to have sex but I was too tired. He seemed understanding so I just went to bed. I woke up during the night to find him thrusting his penis in and out ...

A.   11 June 2007: I wouldn't consider this rape, b/c you were conscious and fully aware of his sexual activity and you didn't obliged to say: 'STOP VIOLATING ME'....'NO...NO...NO....STOP THRUSTING YOUR PENIS INSIDE ME'.....You should have done more to protect your ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant??

Q.   Hi everyone. My boyfriend and i had sex just over a month ago. We used a condom and he did not cum. I got my period a week later but now my period is very late. Like 2 weeks. Is there a chance i'm pregnant? Please write back ...

A.   11 June 2007: NO NO NO NO!! I have known someone who missed their period for two months after she got married. This happens due stress, hormonal changes and adjustments.....YOU'RE OKAY, BUT for your certainty, go and take a pregnancy test to resolve yourself... (read in full...)

32 and don't feel like making love to my hubby!

Q.   i have been with my husband for 14 years and we have 3 children. We are quite well of and want for nothing material.The problem lies with my lack of sex drive. When my husband turns me on then yes i'm up for it and enjoy it but it's not one of my ...

A.   11 June 2007: This is hormonal, and it will reverse with time, and can be treated with medication, or taking a trip with him to a strip club and seeing him get lap dances.... If it makes your more comfortable, take one of your friend girls, but pay more att... (read in full...)

13 and feeling broody... how can I get over these feelings?

Q.   im 13 years old and i know it sound stupid but im really broody. i really want a baby and its getting me down. im not going to have one till im older though, because thats the right thing to do. please help me?? is there anything i can do to make me ...

A.   11 June 2007: You don't write like a thirteen year old, but the thought process seems at the level of mental retardation....I think 13 year olds, who have these kinds of perseptions have difficulty expressing themselves verbally as indicated here.... I can't b... (read in full...)

He's checking out women on dating sites! Should I leave?

Q.   hello i met my boyfriend online, we have been together for six months. i recently found out he had been checking out single females on a dating site! i am terribly hurt by his action.when i asked him why, he replied he loves me, was sorry and wa...

A.   11 June 2007: It seems he may still love you, but he may not be in love with you, and could have lost interest within himself and you. What do you want? Talk with him, and he doesn't improve his behavior, then re-evaluate your needs...and leave him for a ... (read in full...)

Have lots of wet discharge from my vagina.. ?

Q.   Ever so often I have this huge amount of discharge come out of my vagina. It'll soak my panties entirely and sometimes soak through to my pants as well. I don't know why it is doing this. I am not thinking about sex, I am not turned on. I'll be ...

A.   11 June 2007: STD!!....See physician for medicine! This is unhealthy and abnormal!! It will get worse and manifest into other forms of illnesses!... (read in full...)

He says to me "I wish you were dead"... !

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 yrs calls me names like schizo, stupid, and sometimes when he really tempers up he says " I wish you were dead". He had agression and anger problems, and it flares up on me because I dont stand up for myself and I keep it all ...

A.   11 June 2007: IF you continue with this kind of trauma, your idenity and self-esteem will become irreversible to find happiness. It seems like he suffers from a case of undiagnosed mental illness, and if this is true, you should contact the police and make ... (read in full...)

Could these be genital warts (or something else)?

Q.   Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...

A.   11 June 2007: It could be an activated form of "Herpes Simplex-2", or an irriated genital wart. HSV-2 is treatable but not curable, and reactivates with small pulse like sores..SEE A PHYSICIAN. genital warts, can lead to invasive cervical cancer overtim... (read in full...)

How do I bring up the subject of my fiery girlfriend's smelly punani with her?

Q.   My girlfriend really smells-It really especially puts me off if I have to go down on her and she really smells awful. Sometimes the smell is so bad that I can smell it when she simply takes off her thong before even going down there. I think maybe ...

A.   11 June 2007: Also, don't give oral sex until her situation has been completely looked at by a doctor....!, b/c you can transfer these infections to favorable parts of your body, causing harm and illness.... (read in full...)

How do I bring up the subject of my fiery girlfriend's smelly punani with her?

Q.   My girlfriend really smells-It really especially puts me off if I have to go down on her and she really smells awful. Sometimes the smell is so bad that I can smell it when she simply takes off her thong before even going down there. I think maybe ...

A.   11 June 2007: Your girls situation needs the attention of a family physician. 100% of the times, we are never aware of body scents of any kind within our own body. However, MOST OF THE times fungal infections, or bacterial infections(vaginitis), can resul... (read in full...)

My 29 year old husband has been seeing a woman of 64!

Q.   hello i was wondering if you can help me with this sensitive problem. i'm 23, my husband is 29 and we've been married for a year and together since we were 17. a good friend told me she'd seen my husband with a 64-year-old woman. she...

A.   30 April 2007: Sorry to hear of your pain. I am a 31y-o, male and i don't deserve to be with my wife, who i have been married for 5 years. I met a 73 year old women on line, b/c i had an interest and desire to have sex with a women of such age, but good healthy ... (read in full...)

I got my cousin pregnant - we're both 17 and don't know what to do! Help!

Q.   My cousin and i recently were both at a party. After the party she came back to my house to sleepover as both our parents were away for the night. As you can already guess one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together, the only problem ...

A.   12 February 2007: It was just tooooo GOOD, that you just couldn't pull out of her to avoid this embarrassing consequence, huh? Well, if it is true, you did get your first cousin pregnant, then the possiblity of the offspring being mentally deformed, or developm... (read in full...)

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