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writes:Hello everyone, To begin with, I'm in a relationship for like 3 months now, and I've been with that same guy in a relationship 2 years until we broke up in 2011. So we got back together, obviously.Things went very good, we get along extremely well and we were enjoying our "new" time together. This summer, while we were in the process of seeing each other as well, he rushed into relationship with other girl which i found reasonably because we weren't official together and I sent him mismatching signals so I understand the situation. He left her because of me in october and we become couple again. We never slept together and we were both virgins. A few days ago, i found out that he actually slept with this girl and lied me about that even-thought I asked him a couple of times and gave him an opportunity to tell me about his sexual past. I am not mad because he slept with her, I'm disappointed because he lied to me. He said he was very drunk and that he feels extremely bad because of that, trying to erase this from his memory and wishing he never lose virginity to her.I don't know what to do, I was truly happy with him again, I prepared myself for our first time and planned to go on birth control and all but now... I just feel so played. So sad. He feels bad as well, he told jis mother about that and she couldn't believe that he had done this to me.Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I give him credit for telling you the truth before you slept with him. STIs are a real problem. The fact is you were entitled to know his sexual history had changed.
Tons of people keep this sort of thing quiet. They just say "we were broken up" as if its okay to mislead their partner that they aren't carrying any more STI risk than before their break.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (3 January 2013):
I note that you did not say the Reason why you broke up in the first place.However as you have lived with the man for 2 years you are the only one to decide if you can trust him.Lies in a relationship can break trust and its hard to build that trusy up again.You must go with your gut feeling.Have a open chat with him and tell him the effect lies has on you .Best of luck .Nora B.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (2 January 2013):
 This is a tricky one. It comes down to who you think he is as a person. It doesn't sound like a player being an asshole, it could really go either way depending who how trustworthy you think he is. He could be a lying jerk, but he also could be a guy who just made a stupid decision to lie. It's really impossible to tell over the internet.
Whatever you decide, whether to take him back and trust him, or to end things, I don't think you can be faulted either way. Just do what feels right.
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