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writes: My problem is this, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he has this habit of constantly touching my private parts (vagina), he says that it is his to touch, this is really starting to irritate me, I have spoken to him about it before but says that he doesnt understand what my problem is. He does it all the time, while we watch tv, if we pass each other in the hallway he touches it and asks me "how she doing", I cant stand it anymore? My question is why he does this, is there a physcological reason for it?Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): he probalby wants you to touch him, or he wants to have sex with you.If you don't feel comfortable then you deserve better.I'm sure you're a wonderful person, and I think you should let him go and lt him touch some oter girl's vagina!Because yours is now out of business!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): he's probably very atracted and wants you to move to the next step
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): how old are you? Are you not in a sexual relationship after two years. He seems kind of immature calling it his to touch. But, after two years you should expect something like that. Maybe you aren't giving him enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I think you should say that there are other ways to get his enjoyment but it's really irritating you! He should understand that if you don't enjoy it then he won't as much. Find another way to get enjoyment like the other options are oral sex or maybe him touching your breats but say its uncomfortable for you and maybe not when you are watching the TV!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): You have talked too him about it.Good.Ask him too stop if you dont like him too do it.If he doesnt stop then put a hammer too his penis and then kick him out.But usually after two years of dating its about time too step up the pace and possibly have a bit of foreplay.You dont have too have sex.Just piddle around some maby flash him occasionally.But before you do anything of the sort ask him too stop.Should he not stop then you know what too do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): alright, I firmly believe in respecting women to a certain extent, but if ur dating a guy for TWO YEARS, and he's into ur pussy, and likes to rub it, appreciate it! Many women after that long lose guy's interest. U've still got his, roll with it. He's trying to be sexy, rub him back. I mean, unless ur like 16, which shit, u sound like it, then that aint cool. But yes, after 2 years, u own his dick. NO OTHER WOMAN SHOULD TOUCH HIM, and he in a sense owns u. Not owns u owns u, but as long as he isnt sticking his hand down ur pants in public, whats the big deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): He doesn't respect you and therefore doesnt deserve to have you tell him to stop being a dick or your out of there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): i'll tell you exactly what it is. he's happy. he thinks about sex alot, and is happy with what he has. if you don't like it he should respect that. but i doubt there's a bad reason why he does it. but don't listen to the haters, do what you think is right, if you want him to stop he should. but i doubt it's about power or disrepect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): I don't think it has anything to do with whether or not he's sexually satisfied. That's a controlling thing to do to a person. He probably doesn't see it that way, but he's exerting dominance in a childish way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Tell your dude not to be a pig and wait until the time is right for that sort of thing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Hes a man. Full stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): you must be either really naive, metally challenged or this is your first relationship ever, because this must be one of the dumbest things i've ever heard a '30-35' year old ask. However, if i had to put money on it, i'd say you're just seeding the bait to some flames.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): There's only one thing worse than having a boyfriend who constantly wants to touch your goods - having a boyfriend who doesn't constantly want to touch your goods.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Wow, there is a lot of man hate here. I am not saying that his befaviour is acceptable, but what is the root cause of this habit? Men do stupid things like this when they are insecure or not getting a need met. Your man may very well not even know that he is harbouring an insecurity. Sounds to me like you need to both sit down and take a inventory of your relationship, wants, needs, and goals and work together towards obtaining them as a team. Two years is quite a committment, I am sure you overcame other obstacles, this should be no different. Find a way to make your relationship, time together, and each others bodies "ours" not "mine and yours" and you will find happiness together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Well all what he want is to have sex with you' but he was daoughting may be if he tell you directly you'll no, so let's him do it on the other way so get your attention will go back iknto him
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): If he keeps on touching your vagina, just tell him to stop and tell him we can't be together if he keeps on doing this. This is your area not his!
Yours truly,
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): sounds like your boyfriend may be craving more attention, males tend to show they want more attention in weird ways. most of the time the attention they want isn't even sexual, but for some reason lack of "cuddling, kissing, or talking" can make a guy act like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): Personally I think he should 100% respect your wishes. What to him might mean a weird way of saying I love the fact that your mine is getting out of control .. and quite strange. I had a similar problem but mine wasn't always touching my g/f private area it was always wanting to give oral pleasures... I mean a lot :( I know I like it a lot but I realized after a while it became more like .... do you love me or my vagina lol. I know it sound strange my story to but it's the same scenario but with control issue. Your man is so in love with the idea in his head of you being his .. that he can't see that you can walk out that door any minute and he lost probably the best thing in his life. Just let him no very clearly it must stop or else. Ultimatum might be your only way .. of gaining the respect you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): I would say that he keeps touching it because you don't let him play with it enough in the bedroom! How is your sex life? fulfilled?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): You cant let him do it ... Its your vagina, not his, tell him to get lost, tell him "on your bike mate" dont let him.
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reader, mrs0  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Dont be bullied by a man thats clearly obsessed with ya vagina, what does he gain from doing this?.. power over you... do the same to him n if he don't like it, say, well ya know how i feel... something ya not comfy with, stop it now...
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Well, firstly if you don't like tell him out right to piss off and if he still does it then grab him by the balls and you squeeze so hard that he squirms in pain! Men like that need a strong women to show them the difference between right and wrong!
You are not an object or a possession you a human being with a mind of ur own, if he doesn't like it he can piss off even if it is after 2 years! he doesn't respect you if he doesn't listen to you
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reader, sparky +, writes (14 January 2007):
Doc Silverback is way off... what's not OK with you is not OK. Period. End of story. If it's love, he'll respect that. If he doesn't, it's over.
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reader, shania +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Sorry but i dont agree with what Docsilverback has said.You are not a piece of meat and if you were to keep pulling his todger at shopping centres....the local library,his parents house in the street,how would he like it.This man doesn't care about your feelings,all he is worried about is getting an erection.So what if he's been with you for two years,what difference does that make?...Your still a person...not a walking vagina!
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 I am not believing what others has typed on here. As far as even ending your relatitonship after two years!! Apparently, this guy has a lot to offer with the ONE acception. He graps your "thing". If that is the only issue with him, you've got yourself a keeper. Man! He is only playing what I call 'love taps'. He feels that your vagina is his and you feel that his 'area' is yours and yours alone, right? Why don't you take it as him expressing the fact that you two share something that LOTS of relationships DO NOT share, and that is little sexual games. Pass him a tap every now and then, see his reaction. NOT A GRAB...a tap...haha...he might get the hint. And, at least he is not doing this in public or to other females. That would be another issue.
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reader, shania +, writes (13 January 2007):
He's just a dirty little git who thinks your just a sex object.You have told him a million times about this but its going in one ear and out the other.Tell him for the last time that you dont like him doing it and if he still fails to listen then get his butt and kick it out the door...oh! and give him the address to the local whore house.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (12 January 2007):
 To hell with crotch grabbing, dont you think the problem is he sees you as his property and not as a proper person? Tell him firmly that you're getting irritated at it and if he doesn't stop still, knee him in the groin and tell him its yours to grab, stroke, suck or hit. That should get through to him!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 January 2007):
 Start giving him a firm squeeze everytime he passes you in the house and if you can in public when there's noone around. When he looks shocked say What? It's mine to touch. This is one way of getting it out of him. The other way is to tell him it's not acceptable and you don't want him doing it anymore. Hope this helps.CD
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reader, Cool Cucumber +, writes (12 January 2007):
 Yea, you could do it to him (touch his crotch) all the time and see how he likes it....!!! Oh actually he may like it...well it could irritate him and I bet you it is one rule for him and another for you! Sounds like this relationship is based on sex....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): Tell him to stop! You are not his personal property and shouldn't feel uncomfortable about making him stop doing this. It is degrading and shouldn't be tolerated. Talk to him and say if he doesn't stop then you will have no alternative to finish your relationship. Don't be afraid to voice your opinions. He should respect how you feel.
Take care
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (12 January 2007):
 Your first statement pretty much says it all . . . "that it is his to touch." He views you as his personal property. . . and obviously doesn't respect you very much.
If you can't stand it, tell him. If he continues, show him the door. Simple solution.
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