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writes: Hello Advice please asap Ive met a great guy online and plan to meet me him on Sunday. He is deeply deeply spiritual, says he feels things, knows things, senses spirits and that he feels them around him all the the time....His mother was a medium and his whole family have this gift... in every other way he is great, perfect for me, surfs, works, is a musician and such a laugh.. im just worried that his spiritualism might freak me out if he starts telling me stuff I dont really wanna hear. We get on great -- do i meet him...or keep away - he seems lovely ... ?? Reply to this Question |
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reader, TalkingHelps  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 If you don't meet him then you won't find out how much he talks about it in real life, not virtually.
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reader, softtouchmale2003  + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 If he's truly a "medium" perhaps his spiritual friends can give him a heads up on your doubts. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much everyone for all your responses. Im gonna chat to him again tonight, see of thats all he talks about again tonight and see if he can actually switch off from the spirits he is so involved with!May still might him just for a coffee... x
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reader, q1605 +, writes (22 October 2009):
 I am not so sure about life after death. But I plan to bring a change of underwear just in case. I was studying metaphysics in college. I got an F on the final for looking into the soul of the guy sitting next to me.
Houdini and other magicians have had a long standing reward to who can bring demonstrable proof of life after death. It seems verifiable where ever aged or emotionally compromised individuals with large bank accounts congregate. The minute witnesses arrive or assets disappear so do the mediums and their messages from loved ones who have passed on.
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reader, Kalyov + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 well im pretty use to this king of stuff
my brother is a "ghost hunter"
but I stay away from him when he goes on these ghost hunts..I went with him once time and I was so sacred I couldnt sleep for a week
So if you dont think you can handle it, then don't
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 One of the hallmarks of schizophrenia is either auditory or visual hallucinations. Any person who has these regularly is one of those....I believe sometimes people we are close to can contact us beyond the grave through certain events such as electrical events, such as a TV coming on for no apparent reason as a way to let us know that they have moved on to the spiritual realm....but I don't believe that you can "sense them around you" any given time.....I think the things I refer to only happen between very close family memebers and even then it is a rarity.This guy who "knows things" and senses dead people around him is full of it.I would stay clear, he sounds like a nut case.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 I think you should show up for your date with a white sheet and holes cut out for eyes.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 And, you can break the ice with a ouija board :-), which, by the way, was invented with the name "Ouija" as a trade mark.
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reader, sappygirl + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 I have a friend who is an exact description like you describe. Some people are more in touch to a different vibration and can sense/ talk to spirit.
I do believe there are some people with this gift. However,
what I don't believe is what Older Sister described, where so people take this and exploit it. Gypsy, Psychics w/neon lights. Those are all scams.
Some people are skeptics and my ex husband use to get angry with me for believing in ghost and spirits. But the fact of the matter is I've had personal and scary experience with the paranormal. There are so many things we still don't know about.
I don't think you should write him off right away.
Set up a safe meeting in a public area and get a feel/vibe about him.
Trust your instinct. If he seems creepy and crazy, then run.
But if you guys get a long great, then you might have gained a new friend. Just decide on how comfortable you feel about these things, and if you want, tell him you do not want to talk the "spiritual" stuff if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Spirits exist. Many people in this world are too ignorant and stuck in a bubble they dare not step out and question where we go when we die.
Spirits exist, practice with a Ouija board and you will know this. I do not recommend you do however.
Whether you want to stay with this man or not it your choice. But don't just base your opinion on his beliefs.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (22 October 2009):
 If it makes you uncomfortable, you should probably avoid him. It's part of how he identifies himself and he isn't likely to just give it up or stop talking about it just because you don't like it.
I say don't go there.
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reader, Starlights + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
 I dont think you should write this guy off just yet.
Alot of people are spiritual and are in tune with themselves and nature.
We are not just bodies, we're spiritual beings also.
Some humans find this hard to grasp but it is a reality.
Give him a chance and meet him, as from what I understand he sounds like a balanced enough individual with his own hobbies outside of his belief/religious/spiritual system.
If when you do meet him he scares you off then by all means dont pursue this!
Remember true spirituals people dont mean harm to anybody they are about promoting peace.
Goodluck!
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reader, Danielepew + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
Wow, my hat is off to Oldersister."Spiritual" does not mean "spiritistic". In my humble personal opinion, being "spiritual" is something you can disagree with, but is OK; now, being spiritistic is closer to mere superstition.We hear a lot about people questioning religion, but we hear very little about people questioning spiritism. Of course, there's the guy who condemns it flatly.I don't know the guy, and perhaps he's only credulous, but does not sound like a balanced person to me.
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reader, PinkyFloya +, writes (22 October 2009):
Lol, he's insane.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
When I was a growing up, my mom's business went belly up during the real estate crash in the 80's and instead of finding a job, she decided she was psychic and infiltrated that community with more zeal than an evangelical christian. She spent about $600 a week on psychics and then sent me to them. She also attended seances, meetings, and aura reading classes about 3x per week and became fully engulfed in all facets of the psychic "rhelm"- I could tell you so many stories about people like this. She was also convinced that I had untapped psychic potential so I was sent against my will to the Mind Science Center and had electodes sealed to my scalp as I watched images projected on the wall that I had to interpret with a bunch of white noise in the background. She had spirit friends and guides and one of them supposedly lived in our house- a 6yr old girl that was killed in a car accident. Fun. When my neighbor across the street committed suicide, she'd have conversations with him over coffee in our kitchen. She said I couldn't see him or "sense" him because I was spiritually unevolved.Anyway, it's totally bogus. I was a child and knew how full of shit it was. She eventually grew bored of it like she does with all her other phases and quickly discarded the whole psychic thing when a new church was being built by our neighborhood. She donated money for a huge stained glass three story high window to the church and became a member. Oh, then she declared bankrupcy.Poster, you have to really question the mental stability of a person, especially one you've never met, that tells you they see spirits or talks to them. He's a total freak and no, you should not meet this guy. He might even have a brain tumor or an underlying, undiagnosed psychosis that presents hallucinations. Scary any way you look at it. Take care.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 + ♥, writes (22 October 2009):
It all depends on what he believes. People who live in that version of the world may very well experience spiritual encounters. They may be real or maybe they aren't. If he's functioning normally, I would suppose he's harmless.On the other hand its one thing to be spiritual in the "medium" kind of way, and its another thing to see and hear things that aren't there.One is a belief system, the other is psychosis. Its hard to tell which is which without more. Staying away isn't necessarily the best thing to do. But if you can't handle the weird or paranormal, then he's probably not a very good match.
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