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Should I accept that he drinks? or should he respect me and our relationship and stop!

Q.   I am young around legal drinking age, my fiancee is around my age too. I am a girl and I don't party, I don't dance and I don't drink. My fiancee when I met him partied and drank at least once a week. I don't like that face that he drinks an...

A.   17 September 2010: my boyfriend and I had that same conversation...our first fight actually. But we calmed down and talked about it like we should...and he decided he would rather have our relationship than drink and loose it. I gave him the option "me or the beer" he ... (read in full...)

I have to kiss my sister-in-law in a play! Should I do it?

Q.   hello aunty,I am stage actor..my last few plays have done well and I am on a rise..2 days back I was offered a play with the best director in the business..this is a romantic play where my sister-in-law(cousins wife) plays my love interest..she also ...

A.   19 February 2010: I been in several plays (20 to be exact) and I know all about this. This summer we put on Grease and the girl who played Rizzo and the guy who played Kenickie were cousins and they had to do a makeout scene. They just pretended to kiss, but did it ... (read in full...)

If a guy is shy but really likes you, does he treat you differently from everyone else?

Q.   You know when a guy really likes you but seems too shy to do anything or awkard about it for some reason, is it normal for him to just not treat you the same and sort of of treat you like his other friends like... not ingoring but he sort of ...

A.   8 December 2009: My boyfriend was the shy guy! He was so adorable trying to woo me. Here are some signs my boyfriend game me before we dated...he was so shy, it took him 2 months to ask me out! I am extremely glad I waited for him...hes the sweetest guy ever! ... (read in full...)

Was her kissing me on the first date too forward?

Q.   my friend asked out a girl and this girl is looking for someone for her best friend. So my friends girlfriend tells her best friend about me. My friend tells me theres this girl and she's my girlfriends blah blah and she wants to know if you want to ...

A.   30 October 2009: Sounds like my first date with my ex. My friend started liking this guy and she wouldnt go on a date with him unless it was a double date so via internet he introduced me to his friend that went to the college in the town next over. We talked for ... (read in full...)

Does he act like he likes me?

Q.   I like this guy at school. We are both in the band. I like him alot. My friends say he likes me to but idk. He stares at me ALL the time. At a football game about a month ago he told me i was pretty, but he has NEVER talked 2 me since. When he sees ...

A.   28 October 2009: aww we have the same thing going on! almost exactly! I am in my college's band and I play the clarinet and he plays the sax...I have to sit right in front of him in the stands, so during the first game we started talking and haven't stopped since. l... (read in full...)

Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?

Q.   Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...

A.   26 October 2009: I give you props! There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age...Im 21 and I choose to stay one myself (its actually the reason my Ex dumped me...im glad I didn't give in to him). I believe it should be saved for that one special person, ... (read in full...)

I want to feel passion with a man.

Q.   Hello. I am very confuses which I am gay, bi, or straight. I want to be gay but not 100 percent... I don't want woman in my life but want to have kids... I just want is feel passion with man .... I want to be myself.. If I need feel passion.. Who I ...

A.   26 October 2009: well I can't tell you which you are...you have to find that yourself...but I will tell you this. God loves everyone, no matter what! Even if you are gay, he does not turn his back on his children! ... (read in full...)

He is deeply spiritual and senses spirits around him. Should I stay away?

Q.   Hello Advice please asap Ive met a great guy online and plan to meet me him on Sunday. He is deeply deeply spiritual, says he feels things, knows things, senses spirits and that he feels them around him all the the time.... His mother was...

A.   22 October 2009: well im pretty use to this king of stuff my brother is a "ghost hunter" but I stay away from him when he goes on these ghost hunts..I went with him once time and I was so sacred I couldnt sleep for a week So if you dont think you can handle it, t... (read in full...)

I really like this guy but he is shorter then me!

Q.   Hi, I'm currently finishing my last few weeks of high school and just very recently I've been falling for this guy. He's so adorable, cute and kind, but, he's shorter than me! He's heaps shorter than me actually, yet, he's still older. I don't k...

A.   19 October 2009: If you really like this guy I am sure that you will eventually learn to look past his "flaw" Just try not thinking about it and think about all his good traits....you never know you might pass up a good thing if you decided not to peruse him beca... (read in full...)

Why does he talk to me online but ignore me otherwise?

Q.   Hey. Really need some help with this. I've been speaking to a guy on msn for months. I know him. He lives in my area and he's a friend of friends. We speak a lot on msn and he basically won't leave me be. But when I see him at school I swear h...

A.   13 October 2009: Maybe he is extremely shy and doesnt know how to act around you. I know how it is...I do the same. It is so much easier to talk to someone online that you like then talk to them in person, or it is to me. Next time he is online...may... (read in full...)

Can you like a guy but not be attracted to them?

Q.   So I was wondering can you like a guy but not be attracted to them? Hope that doesn't sound rude... I like guys for their personalities, but most of the time I also consider them somewhat attractive. But I met this guy here at college...he sit...

A.   4 October 2009: More info... I also feel very protective of him...a girl in band who is pretty much a "player" she had 3 bf's at one time and are still dangling them around, likes him. I've warned him about her nature and he told me "don't worry, I know...she c... (read in full...)

Can you like a guy but not be attracted to them?

Q.   So I was wondering can you like a guy but not be attracted to them? Hope that doesn't sound rude... I like guys for their personalities, but most of the time I also consider them somewhat attractive. But I met this guy here at college...he sit...

A.   4 October 2009: I also feel very protective of him...a girl in band who is pretty much a "player" she had 3 bf's at one time and are still dangling them around, likes him. I've warned him about her nature and he told me "don't worry, I know...she can try all she ... (read in full...)

Should I even talk to him?

Q.   (Sorry this is REALLY long!) Last November I was in a play at my previous college (it was a 2 year and I graduated and moved on), during the play my friend (Carrie) and I met a guy named Brian. Well him and my friend got close and started dating; ...

A.   11 September 2009: Since everything went wrong in his life and theres no one left hes trying to get back with me? So your saying that I'm sort of like a last resort type thing? Figures . ... (read in full...)

Will this older man take me seriously in the future?

Q.   I'm almost 17 years old and he's almost 35. This Fall will mark the third year of my feelings for him. After I was no longer his student he was okay w/ seeing me/chatting for a few hours online/public places, and I always had 1 friend w/ me, when ...

A.   26 August 2009: I think you need to move on and forget about it Im sorry that sounds mean But I am an education major And one major rule they stress in our classes is 'Never get involved with a student' It is illegal and he can loose his job over it ... (read in full...)

I'm not a monogamous guy - will there ever be another woman like her?

Q.   My ex-girlfriend and I broke up just over ten years ago after a seven year relationship. I'll admit, I wasn't the nicest guy in the world. I did cheat on her and left her for other women several times throughout our relationship. Well, now I'm 42 ...

A.   25 August 2009: you just need to buckle down and straighten up you cant been the 21 year old player your whole life you need to stop and look at yourself and your life find a girl and stick with her stop your fooling around you will NEVER find a woman who is ... (read in full...)

I want to propose to her, Harry Potter style, but how?

Q.   Hi! My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now (five years), since she was 19 and I was 21. And I just want to know of a nice, decent place I can propose to her at. We're both Americans still living in America with the common goal of m...

A.   9 July 2009: Aww this is soo cute! Im pretty much obsessed with HP too.. Remember how Dumbledore kept the ring in the Snitch? In Deathly Hallows? Make a Snitch and put the ring inside! :D Maybe get some friends together and play some ground Quidditch an... (read in full...)

Why do good people always get hurt in relationships?

Q.   So why is it that good people always get hurt in relationships? Why is it that when you really are good, caring, honest, and above all loyal to another person you always get screwed over in the end? I have (and not to brag but) been told before by ...

A.   28 June 2009: In will take you lol. I have the same problem you have but other way around. I have been told that I am a very sweet, loyal, and a caring person, which I am. I do not smoke, drink, do drugs, cheat, or play as well. But every relationship I hav... (read in full...)

7 years apart. I didn't know, why did he do that to me?

Q.   We're both in college and we liked each other, he found out i was older than him before I found out he is that much younger....so we kinda talked at the end of the quarter, he was not looking at me when he asked me how old i am, then i told him and ...

A.   26 June 2009: This is normal for college There is no problem with your age difference It happens every day at colleges all over ... (read in full...)

Decisions decisions... go back with the ex or stay with my current boyfriend?

Q.   Ok so i have a difficult decision, go back to my ex or stay with my current bf? Ive been with this guy for about 2 weeks and hes really sweet and all but now my ex has told me he wants me back and i want him so bad now. Last time we spilt up because ...

A.   26 June 2009: No! I have dealt with players, it is not fun. I kept going back and just kept getting hurt. Don't do this to yourself, get away from him. I know it is hard, I still really care about the guy that plaid me but we have only talked once since Nove... (read in full...)

Is sex important in a relationship?

Q.   Okay let me just start this out as...I am 21 and still a virgin and would like to stay that way until I'm ready to get married. I have always promised myself I would and I'd rather do so, sex just doesn't seem important to me...I've never even ...

A.   25 June 2009: You say that it could be 'bad' and you wouldn't ever know until after the wedding...but I ask "why does that matter?" If you truly love someone, I don't think it should matter if the sex isn't that great? I grew up being told by my parents ... (read in full...)

What should I give my teacher as a "thank you" present?

Q.   please help me! i only have a few hours to figure this out: i want to get my teacher a thank you present, because i never was at all interested in the subject he teaches before i had him; he made it fun for me. he's a great teacher and has ...

A.   25 June 2009: This kind of depends on the policy of your school. I gave my band director a tie with music notes on it once. I am sure your teacher will appreciate it a lot. ... (read in full...)

I wonder if he was a pedophile, or was it my fault...

Q.   I was 17 when it happened, I was lonely and a male teacher in his late 40s (who gave out many hugs to me and other students) started touching me a little too much. I felt a little uncomfortable at first, as his hands lingered on my waist each tim...

A.   23 June 2009: That teacher took advantage of you. He saw you as an easy target because you were lonely and felt misunderstood. Is that teacher still teaching? You really need to tell somebody so he gets fired...he could do that to other girls. It is not right at ... (read in full...)

So lonely my heart hurts.

Q.   I'm a 21 year old female, I have style, class, intelligence and am always warm to others. But I am so alone my heart literally hurts. I moved around allot in my high school years and ended up being home schooled. I have no real friends outside of ...

A.   13 June 2009: I know how you feel. I too am 21 and have only ever had one boyfriend, my first kiss was in December...he turned out to be a jerk, we broke up after 28days. I see all my friends with their boyfriends and get very lonely, it doesn't make since to m... (read in full...)

Like me? Or just want to make out?

Q.   So my friend Brian set me up with his bestfriend and we started dating. Well Brian has a twin named Brad and one day I was over at their house with my ex hanging out and while we were there my ex (he was still my bf at the time)was being stupid and ...

A.   8 February 2009: That could bit it I have wondered that myself I know my ex really didnt want Brad and I to talk for some reason and Im almost just ask shy I hate confronting people XD and yeah Id rather talk to him at his house than at school for the 'do y... (read in full...)

Why is my ex flirting with me when he dumped me?

Q.   So when I first got there we stared at each other for a bit then I looked away and went to sit down. He didn't talk to me. I found out he told Brian he wasn't going to. Well Brians mom sent us to the store to get food….me, chris, carrie, and bria...

A.   8 February 2009: Well I do miss him and If he said sorry I might give him another try but I dont see that happening so I have to move on I just dont see why he wants to play these games with my head =/ I wish he wouldnt It confuses/upsets me... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has one inverted nipple and she's paranoid about it...

Q.   My girlfriend has one inverted nipple - it doesn't bother me at all, but she is so paranoid about it that her boobs are a no go area. She has been to the doctor and there are no medical problems. I don't know how we can get over this as I really...

A.   3 January 2009: Well if she doesnt take your compliments, trying to boost her self confidence about it...I just found this. Some people with inverted nipples consider them to be a cosmetic deformity and seek methods to protract them. Plastic surgery is on... (read in full...)

Should I call him or his friend???

Q.   So my boyfriend and I broke up on the 28th after a really happy day together full of cuddling, laughing, and watching tv...but that night he said "lets just be friends" I was so confused and upset...he says he still likes me...and I really like hi...

A.   3 January 2009: well I decided to call him and we talked for 10min =) but then he went quiet so I decided to give him so space ... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   31 December 2008: Well when we were together it seemed everything was great... so I wasnt sure.. =/ we cuddled all day on Sat and Sun and he followed me everywhere I went like a little lost puppy (though hes a foot taller than I) and he woke me up with a Kiss on S... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   31 December 2008: its hard to think of him as a bad person because he always said the sweetest things him: i feel bad for not having anymore to be able to get you somthing him: any money* me: aww its fine baby all I need is you =) him: -kiss- him: and you... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   31 December 2008: his friend said "he wants you be with you but doesnt" whats that suppose to mean? he said something about finding a way out why would he want a way out if he called us prefect together? =/ Im so confused and I miss him we haven't talked... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   30 December 2008: I didnt want in the relationship really at first... I had just stopped talking to a guy who had really hut me before doing the same thing! He had a gf I didn't know about..and when I did he sill flirted and wanted me to come visit him (because he ... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   30 December 2008: He kept wanting sex but I wouldnt give it to him...I let him do other things, but pushed him off and asked him to stop when it got too far. I asked him if it was the sex thing he said "no" I asked "you sure?" he said "its not now stop asking!"... (read in full...)

Why does he want to be 'just friends'?

Q.   My boyfriend and I dated for 28 days. We were soo happy together. He would text me all day the 1st coupe of weeks and he'd make me every morning with a 'good morning baby!' and it was so nice. The on the 18th I was with him and some girl popped u...

A.   30 December 2008: He kept wanting sex but I wouldnt give it to him...I let him do other things, but pushed him off and asked him to stop when it got too far. I asked him if it was the sex thing he said "no" I asked "you sure?" he said "its not now stop asking!"... (read in full...)

He broke up with me... I wanted to fix things... what to do?

Q.   So my boyfriend just broke up with me. I thought everything was fine...we have been dating for 28 days now. He asked me out on Dec. 1st and after a bit of him persuading me (saying "I will never hurt you, and I will never make you cry, you have bee...

A.   30 December 2008: we did things but we never went all the way he wanted to but I am not ready for that ... (read in full...)

He broke up with me... I wanted to fix things... what to do?

Q.   So my boyfriend just broke up with me. I thought everything was fine...we have been dating for 28 days now. He asked me out on Dec. 1st and after a bit of him persuading me (saying "I will never hurt you, and I will never make you cry, you have bee...

A.   29 December 2008: correction part of that convo should say and then I asked "so im confused..what do you want?" He said "what do you want?" and I said "I want to fix things and make it right again" and then I asked 'what do you want?" and he said "I just wan... (read in full...)

Was this attempted rape?

Q.   My boyfriend knows I want to stay a virgin till im married....but last night we did a lot...and normally we do that dry humping thing..well this time I had no clothes on and he had his boxers on...well I felt his hands down there and I didnt kn...

A.   29 December 2008: well I dont have to worry anymore he just broke up with me and I dont know why he just keeps saying "I dont know...I like you but I just want to be friends" ... (read in full...)

Is this abuse?

Q.   I really hate being tickled...and I go into asthma attacks when someone tickles me really hard. Well my boyfriend sat on my chest yesterday so that I could not move...and he kept tickling me. I think he did it for about 5 minuets or more. My f...

A.   29 December 2008: I could have went into an attack and possibly died...but he just broke up with me so...... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend's behaviour normal?

Q.   I’ve never really been in a relationship before so this is all new to me. Well I was wondering if my boyfriends’ behavior is normal. We barely talk on the phone because I’m not really a phone person, I’d rather chat online or in person. Well when...

A.   26 December 2008: I'm fine now. I just had no idea why he would be lovey in person around his friends but not lovey online or via text when around friends. I just wish he'd tell me if he was around his friends or something because when hes around them they'll ... (read in full...)

Bad gag reflex but my b/f wants oral sex

Q.   So I'm really new at this dating thing, never really had an official boyfriend until now. I am 20 and he is 19. He was surprised when I told him I am a virgin, and that I've never been kissed. Well he says I can kiss pretty good now, but kissing...

A.   24 December 2008: I really like him we get along really well A lot in common and hes very sweet But hes just a very horny 19 year old and I'm not use to that because I could care less about things like that I prefer to wait to have sex till I''m married ... (read in full...)

If I don't know how to kiss, my HS Senior won't go out with me!

Q.   ok here the thing I am a sophmore and there is this guy that I like but he is senior. So with that being said next fall he is going to college."( In my eyes he tried to get with my sister because he called me and instead he spoke to her on ...

A.   24 December 2008: wow what a jerk if the only reason he wont date you is because you have never kissed before he is really shallow I just started dating a guy (and im 20...hes 19) and I had never kissed before, but he taught me the other day and says I'm doing g... (read in full...)

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